When it comes to asking a woman out it is important that men realize two things.
First, there are no such things as miracles even though every now and then you can get lucky if you ask enough women.
Secondly, more often then not there will not be a "good" time to ask her out; unless you create it yourself.
The reason why this must be said now is because quite often a man will not ask a woman out until the moment is just right in his mind.
For most sober men that time is alone with her so that there are no witnesses to the rejection that he is almost certain he will face.
This then leads to him believing that it was a miracle she said yes in the first place if and when he managed to find her alone and find the courage to ask her out.
If it ended there this really might not be a problem, however his belief in her going out with him as a "miracle".
This creates in his mind a type of neediness that only a woman looking to take advantage of a man would or can possibly appreciate.
In other words, the very thin that a man is so excited to have gotten by a miracle; is the very thin he can never truly get as long as he believes it is by a miracle that he got it and can only get it again under the "right" conditions.
Truth is the right time to ask a woman out is right no when you first start to think it is a good idea.
The moment she decided to go out with you is very early and can change in an instant if you wait too long.
Whereas the moment she decided she doesn't want to go out with you rarely changes no matter how long you wait.
It is also important for you to realize that her moment of indifference in regards to going out you will have occurred much sooner than you thought of asking her out ever occurred.
by Teddy Shabba
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