5 Ways You Can Make Women Pursue You

If you're like me, then you have moments where just want to lazy. And this is especially true when it comes time to trying to attract a woman
. Instead of making an effort to think of a clever pickup line, you simply want attractive women to come to you.

 

As you know by now, approaching girls and initiating a conversation is pretty hard work. Not only do you have think of something clever to say, you also have to ensure that you build instant attraction.

 

What's the interesting is there are a small number of guys who know the secret to getting women to pursue us. Once you understand these techniques, you can sit back and let women vie for your attention. And in this article, I'll discuss 5 of the best ways you can make women WANT to pursue you. Let's get started...

 

1. Qualify her.

 

One of the biggest mistakes guys make to try to "prove themselves" when talking to a woman
. Instead of giving away all the power, you should shift focus and make the girl qualify herself.

 

You can do this by describing how you have specific standards in your life. Then just sit back and watch how she'll do her best to conform to your guidelines.

 

2. Act like an alpha male.

 

Women are drawn to guys who display a powerful presence. By acting like a higher status male, you'll display positive traits like confidence, initiate and leadership.

 

So during your initial conversation (or before even talking to her) you must show that you're "a leader of men" and you're not afraid to go after what you want.

 

3. Demonstrate higher value.

 

On the heels of acting like an alpha male, it's equally important to show that you're an interesting guy. When you demonstrate specific traits which makes you stand out from the crowd, women will easily notice you.

 

An easy way to demonstrate higher value is to have an exciting hobby, a fun skill or know how you talk to her in a seductive manner. Just remember that being a high status guy is one of the best ways to build instant attraction in a girl.

 

4. Be aloof.

 

While it might seem counterintuitive, you can make a woman
become attracted to you by acting in an aloof manner. Since females are used to being pursued by guys, you'll become more mysterious if you show an "I don't care" attitude. In fact, by displaying a lack of desire, you'll become a prize which she must work hard to attain.

 

5. Have your own life.

 

As you're probably realizing, the best way to attract women is to display a higher status personality. So the final way to get a woman
to pursue you is to show an exciting lifestyle.

 

When you're talking to a woman, let her know that you have a LOT going on in your life and you don't NEED to date women. If you can show that you're happy with your life, she'll be impressed by the fact that you have a lot of exciting things going on. What's interesting is when you demonstrate this attitude; women will want work hard to become part of your life.

 

Getting women to pursue isn't that hard to do. If you can show that you're an interesting guy who is worth their time, you'll discover that women will start to make the first move. Just display the five traits I discussed in this article and you'll be on your way to making girls chase after you.

 

by Scott Patterson

Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend - Captivating the Girl of Your Dreams

Does single-blessedness suddenly seem not so blessed anymore? If you're wracking your brain for tips on how to get a girlfriend, here they are, before Valentine's Day rolls past and you're love-less still.

 

Be visible.

 

Short of announcing your availability to the world, a more subtle way of showing you're unattached is to make the rounds. Don't expect to get yourself a girlfriend if you stay ensconced in your room, stuck with just fantasizing about having a girlfriend. Socialize and mingle. Allow your friends to do the matchmaking for you.

 

If you're uncomfortable with the idea of meeting someone new, perhaps you could go on a group date. Having some other friends with you to help you cope with the anxiety of meeting someone new can minimize the jitters and allow you to feel more confident and safe in your own skin.

 

Take it slow.

 

Don't rush into a relationship. Don't give your girl friend an impression you're psycho by calling and emailing nonstop. Ask her whether it would be fine to call her.

 

Let her feel comfortable with you first. Instead of a full-course dinner, just take her out for coffee. A casual setting such as a cafe will give her time to let down her guard and get to know you more. If things turn out the way you desired, then you just may be lucky enough to be able to ask her out again.

 

Be sincere.

 

Flattery will get you nowhere, unless you really mean it. Avoid spewing cheesy lines you've obviously parroted from Jerry Maguire. This will only make you appear fake and insincere.

 

Be respectful.

 

Treat her the way you'd want other guys to treat your sister, your mother or any woman
you care about. If she turns down your invitations, do not force getting her to go out with you. There are always other opportunities to meet other girls. Who knows, she might even change her mind and call you back.

 

Be creative and original.

 

Flowers and chocolates are nice gifts; but admittedly, they are quite boring and generic. Give her something unusual, something she will truly appreciate, something that tells her you've put a lot of thought into it. You may have to do a bit of research and enlist the cooperation of her friends to know what stuff she's into. They will be more than happy to assist you. Not only will this pleasantly surprise her, but it will get you the all-important nod of approval from her friends as well.

 

Listen.

 

Don't keep talking about yourself and your most daring exploits. A meaningful conversation is a two-way street. Make eye contact when she tells you something. Give her your riveted attention and make her feel like she is your whole world.

 

Be consistent.

 

So she finally said yes, she would be your girlfriend. This is no reason for you to slack and simply forget about that stage when you were doing your darned best to romance her. That stage will never be over, even after you've won her over. Keep on wooing her, and make it a daily habit. Romancing a woman
constantly would be the best decision you've ever made. It makes life easier for you both, and she'll be more receptive to your wants and needs, too. Not to mention that giving love is pretty fulfilling also.

 

Research and learn more.

 

A good way to start in this endeavor would be to get to know yourself. The more you find out about yourself and get in touch with who you are, the more you will learn how to handle others. Read up and learn more on how to handle yourself and others, especially women. Apply this knowledge, and you will be great with the ladies in no time.

 

Above these tips on how to get a girlfriend, always bear in mind that being a gentleman and treating her like a queen is the way to her heart. If you want to get and keep her, by all means, go the gentleman's way and woo her with as much romance as you can muster. I'm sure, you won't go wrong here.

 

by Michael Lee

Three Tips to Cure Shyness around Women

If you find that you become shy around women, I bring you good news. Shyness around women can be cured with little effort.

 

Shyness is the main reason many guys never try to attract a woman
or approach them. Their shyness virtually paralyzes them to the point that they never make a move while other guys leave with the attractive women.

 

But, this can change for the better. Here are three tips to cure shyness around women and help you become that confident guy any woman
wants:

 

Tip 1: Eliminate Your Expectations

 

One reason guys become nervous around women is because they focus too much on the outcome of the interaction. They place too many expectations on what they hope to achieve, whether it is getting her phone number or going on a date.

 

Rather than focus on the outcome, just enjoy the conversation and company. Relax. Do not worry about whether or not she is into you. Just appreciate that you are talking to her and have a good time.

 

When you feel yourself becoming nervous, just repeat in your mind that you really do not care what happens. It would be great if you got her number, but it would not be the worst thing ever if you didn't. Like I said, just have fun. The last thing you want her to see is how nervous you are.

 

Tip 2: Know What You Want

 

I really am not contradicting myself. Yes, I told you in the first tip to remove all expectations and now I am suggesting you figure out exactly what you want.

 

The difference is that you need a plan of action. This is far different from removing your expectations of the outcome. Always know what outcome you want to occur, just do not dwell on it during the conversations.

 

Ask yourself: What do I want to come from talking to her? Do I just want to have a good time? Do I want to secure a date? Or become intimate with her? The better you can answer these questions and know what you want, the more comfortable you will feel at shifting the conversation to make it happen.

 

Tip 3: Just Go For It!

 

Practice is the best way to cure shyness around women. Knowing what you want, as I recommended above, makes it a lot easier to go for it when you have the opportunity.

 

If you still find that you are nervous when talking to women, my advice is to just keep practicing. With practice, you will eventually feel more comfortable and less nervous around women.

 

As with any skill, learning to become comfortable approaching women is something that must be practiced. Practice your conversation skills so you can determine what works and what does not work. You will gradually build your confidence and soon wonder why you were ever shy around women. Once women start picking up on your new confident personality, they will find you even more attractive.

 

Paying attention to these three tips will, eventually, reduce your shyness. With a little effort, you can be that guy taking home
the beautiful woman
!

 

by Scott Patterson

New Creative Dating Ideas - How To Make or Break Your Dates?

Is your dating life FOREVER revolving around the same old hangouts, dinners, movies and shopping? Wanna make a big impression on your date and do something new and creative?

 

New romantic creative dating ideas can be hard to come up with. Most women would want for their dating experience to be creative and original, or at least something refreshing new for a change.

 

So, here are some of the creative dating ideas that aim to overwhelm your dating life. Make your date special by reading on and try out the highly recommended new creative dating ideas. Skip this and you risk breaking your date with the old boring dating routine. You've been advised; don't say I didn't tell ya.

 

1) Do something new in your daily life with your significant other half. Like signing up for new classes for egg baking, cooking, sports or lifestyle courses. This not only allows you to enrich your way of life, but also enable you to spend more constructive time together with your loved one.

 

2) Surprise her with a short getaway out of town! Book a trip for two to the nearest resort or somewhere in the suburbans in secret and plan for a romantic short holiday that takes off time from your busy daily schedules. What more perfect to spend quiet and romantic time away from home
, with such a big surprise for your other half, ready to go away on holiday!

 

3) Tattooing Declare your love for each other by having a tattoo done on each other's body. This is what we call PDA (Public Display Affection). What to way to show your mutual love for each other, eternally and impermanently.

 

4) Grooming Day Book a reservation for two to have you and your other half be groomed and pampered from head to toe. Have your manicures and pedicures done, complete with a full body waxing session or at least a Brazilian waxing. This will definitely spice things up and lead to each other's anticipation for more heated up action (and this I mean passionate love-making session at night for the uninitiated.)

 

Remember, dating does not only entail sticking with your regular dating routines. Dating may be a routine, but it depends on whether you can u MAKE or BREAK with your creative dating idea!

 

by Emi Sur

How to Get a Girl to Like You - Woo Your Way into Her Heart

Do you want to find out the secret on how to get a girl to like you? Fear not, because there are solutions. Around half of the world's male population has a dilemma on how to steal the heart of the fairer sex just like you. Just what is it that women are made of, and what is it that gets them? This is a list of tips on how to get a girl to like you:

 

Be yourself.

 

To get people to like you, you only need to be yourself. Phoniness has never been a welcome trait. Trying to be someone you're not sends out a warning signal. Pretentiousness is a turn-off because people want to get to know other people for who and what they are.

 

Immerse yourself.

 

If you've always felt like a worm around the opposite sex, it's not the end of the world. Getting used to being around them may take some getting used to; but as with any brave exploit, it takes a degree of adjustment. Start with the basics.

 

Observe your own family. Take note of the interactions between family members of opposite sexes. If you're lucky enough to have been raised in a house full of women, then you'd at least have a rudimentary awareness of how to act around females. But if you've only ever interacted with male creatures your whole life, you'll have to work a little harder at it.

 

Try to be around women more and try to get to know how they tick. It won't help to avoid them at all costs just because you are daunted by them. Girls are vulnerable to bouts of low self-esteem, too. If you're apprehensive with dealing with a girl, keep in mind that girls wonder about how to get guys to like them as well.

 

Be nice.

 

"Nice" and "pleasant" mean two different things. Sure, you might be a pretty fun guy to be around with, but do you actually go out of your way to be a decent human being?

 

Help an old lady cross the street. Be a role model for kids to look up to. Be kind to animals. Being considerate to others, no matter the age, gender, or species, is sure to make any girl fall for you.

 

Of course, don't do it just to impress her. If all you're after are the brownie points, your efforts will only blow up in your face, painfully.

 

Clean up your act.

 

Some girls may find James Dean types rather appealing. That, however, is no alibi for you to skip the shower. A guy can be the most jaw-dropping Adonis, but it's a given the girls will run away from him like he's leprosy personified if he stinks like a skunk.

 

Be a friend.

 

Yes, nonromantic relationships between people of the opposite sexes do exist. In some cases, pure friendship relationships can even lead to romantic relationships. But whether or not you'd like to take it that far, keep in mind that girls weren't put on earth to be chased after and captured like prize game.

 

There is a higher likelihood for her to enjoy your presence if you treat her with respect, listen well when she is talking, and provide support when she's not in her best element. Assure her of your clean intentions and don't make her feel like you're only after one thing (and we're all aware what that is).

 

Keep these tips on how to get a girl to like you in mind and you'll never go wrong with the ladies.

 

by Michael Lee

The Most Overlooked Night Time Pickup Strategy

I've been ranting for two podcasts in a row about how bars & clubs are overrated places to meet MOTOS (Members of the Opposite Sex). And I'm famously relentless when it comes to harping on how trite it is to keep focusing on having "game" there. All of that's true.

 

And yet, take a wild guess what I'm going to talk about today.

 

But before I do, allow me to be perfectly clear. The world is indeed saturated with the same warmed-over advice about how to "game" each other when out on the town. But Sunday night, a flat-out wild realization hit me like a bolt of lightning while Emily and I was out atwella bar.

 

There is one angle of this whole "bars & clubs" shtick that I've never heard talked about anywhere. Karaoke "game".

 

So what caused this epiphany? Well, basically Emily and I have both known for quite sometime that karaoke joints tend to be naturally more social places than most bars. This is understandable. After all, you're in an "interactive" setting where the audience is self-generating the entertainment. This makes fellow co-participants want to talk to each othercongratulating or even co-conspiring with each other.

 

Sunday night was no differentexcept for two key events. First of all, there was the decidedly average woman
who booted herself at least two notches up any man's raw attraction scale upon belting out the World's Hottest Rendition of Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats". Shortly thereafter, something even more mind-bending happened. A few minutes after completing my first "selection" - a particularly soulful one that nobody could have predicted I'd go for - Emily had several decidedly hot young women tap her on the shoulder, gaze longingly into her eyes and say something to the effect of, "Ohthat was so dreamy. How come my boyfriend can't be like YOURS?"

 

As if that wasn't shocking enough, the looks and comments actually RAMPED UP as the night progressed. Emily's "perfectly imperfect" take of "Hella Good" didn't hurt. Neither did hearing every chick's voice in the place singing along with my hard-practiced "Jumper" by Third Eye Blind.

 

So it hit me: Karaoke "game" - when strategized and executed correctly - has got to be the most naturally effective version of "night game" imaginable. Seriously. Get this right, and men and women BOTH can practically own the whole place, driving "interest-level" on the part of the opposite gender so rambunctiously in the process that people are practically throwing numbers and e-mail addresses.

 

Let's break it down. First, here's WHY:

 

1) It takes REAL CONFIDENCE to even get up there. Doing so provides HARD evidence.

 

2) You cause every hottie in the room to NOTICE YOU, even as you get this done without any shred of NEEDINESS whatsoever.

 

3) You get MAD SOCIAL PROOF without begging for approval (just for showing up, reallyeven if you're verifiably terrible)

 

4) Everyone understands you have a REAL PERSONALITY and that you might actually be FUN to hang out with.

 

5) You get to make eye contact with whomever you want from up thereall while in a position of leadership over the whole room.

 

Wait a minuteall of those bullet points sound familiar. If my head is on straight, ALL OF THE ABOVE READ LIKE THE BASICS OF CREATING ATTRACTION. And all in one simple step? Are you KIDDING ME?

 

No. I am most certainly not kidding you. Remember, however, that I did complicate matters by mentioning that both STRATEGY and EXECUTION have to be on-point. Otherwise, it ain't happenin' for you.

 

So you know WHY, here's HOW:

 

1) Get Up There

You have to participate in order to reap the benefits. And here's the best part: You DO NOT have to know how to sing. Think about it. There are people you can name off the top of your head who have RECORD CONTRACTS and can't carry a tune in a bucket. The strategy? Pick songs by those people! (Duh). Now, on the other hand, if you were the star of your high-school choir and/or you can sing along to the radio in the car like a freakin' rock starI don't want to hear any more excuses. The world is yours on a silver platter here. Sack up.

 

2) Plan Your "Set" Ahead Of Time

It's important to pick a few songs you think you could theoretically nail to the floor ahead of time. Then, get on iTunes and drop a lousy buck for each one. Then play them ten times in a row until they are STONE COLD. I know one guy who truly can't sing, but has some Weird Al song down so ridiculously that he brings the house down with it every time. Practiceit's worth it. Smoothness rocks even over raw talent in most cases.

 

3) Mix It Up

This is a major way to go from "participation" to "looks of awe and amazement accompanied by unsolicited approaches from everyone present". Say you decide you feel comfortable with a particular hip-hop tune. Next time you get up there, throw down something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. Going from rock-station anthem to R & B classic works particularly well. Whatever the case, work hard to have at least one slower, libido-inspiring arrow in the proverbial quiver of tunes in your repertoire. If you are summarily freaked out by even getting up there for now, this can wait. But work towards it.

 

4) If You Already Have a Date, Sing To Him/Her

One time I busted out with "Sara Smile" to a woman
named Sara, who I'm pretty sure still talks to her friends about it even though the guy who did it is now marriedto someone else. What made the whole gig even more poignant is that there was NO CHANCE of guessing that a guy like me would pull that one out of the ether. Jaws dropped. Nice.

 

5) Bring Energy

You've heard that you need to bring high energy when "opening a set". This is no exception. In fact, "energy" equals "awesome" a shockingly high percentage of the time.

 

6) Collaborate and Be Social

High five others when they are done. Ask the next table over what they are singing. Find someone to sing the male/female duet with you (nice). Are you beginning to see how this can be like "shooting fish in a barrel"? Just leave the guns home.

 

7) Dance to Other People's Songs

Emily and I did this - when nobody else had - and what do you knoweveryone else joined us. Not only do you show some leadership when you do this, you validate whoever is on stage. Make friends, influence people, create attraction.

 

By now, you may be thinking, "How come I never figured any of this out before?" If you are like most, it's because you've long ago ruled out any chance of anyone dragging you on stage. Get over it, and watch amazing things happen.

 

by Scot McKay

How to Pick Up Girls - 4 Simple Tips for You

How to pick up gorgeous girls in the pub? Is it very hard to do it? It is actually not that hard after all, if you know the techniques and skills on picking up girls. There are just some basic skills that you need to have in order to succeed in picking up them.

 

1. Be courageous. You will need to pick up your courage to step out there and talk to girls if you really want to pick them up. This is the most basic and important first step.

 

2. Have faith in yourself. If you do not believe in yourself that you can do it, then you can forget about succeeding.

 

3. Use open ended lines. Do not start off a conversation with a question that the girl can answer with just a simple "yes" or "no. You will need to ask questions whereby she will need to talk more.

 

4. Be as humorous as possible. Your job is to make her laugh. If you can make her laugh early in the conversation, you have already won 70% of the battle. But do not make lame jokes, sometimes it will just backfire.

 

5. Be observant. Observe what she wears and the surrounding, so that you can come up with topics to talk about without the both of you breaking into a silence. Sometimes by listening to what she is saying, you can come up with a lot of topics to talk about.

 

6. Have eyes contact. When the both of you are into a conversation, do not let your eyes wander about. Look into her eyes to show that you are interested in her and enjoying the time that both of you are spending together.

 

by Crid Lee