3 Tips to Choosing the Best Online Dating Site

During the early days of internet dating, there were very few sites. Now, there are literally tens of thousands of internet dating sites. You have every reason to be very selective while choosing the best online dating site for you.

 

1. You want the site that will give you a large number of search options. Mainly; age, height, build, city/state, last login date, nationality and occupation.

 

Before you decide to get "emotionally" involved with someone online, you have the right to know the "basics".

 

You may not want a long distance relationship....

 

You may only date men of a certain height and build...

 

You may be totally opposed to dating someone within certain professions...

 

Never let any online dating site strip you of your choices!

 

2. Make sure the members of the site are the types of people you would normally have as friends. Don't fool yourself...if only 10% of the singles on a particular site seems like people you would enjoy hanging out with, this isn't the site for you. Keep shopping...you have lots of choices!

 

3. When choosing the best online dating site, read the fine print! Make sure they have a reasonable cancellation policy. If the free trial is for 14 days, but their cancellation procedure states, they must receive your cancellation by mail before the 14th day. This is not reasonable. It is almost impossible! Most sites know this, and that is the reason they want to have your credit card information on file, even during the free trial. That way, when they don't receive your cancellation by mail, at least they will be able to get one months payment out of you.

 

Always remember, you have lots of choices when it comes to online dating sites. Take your time and find the right one for you. It will be more than worth it!

 

by Vivian Johnson

The Post Date Signs

Whatever you have done during your date will affect your actions for the post date phrase. Sometimes, it may be tricky to decipher her moves. For example, during your first date, you gave her a treat and she says she wants to treat you back the next time. For a woman, this usually happens because she wants to give you an excuse so that the both of you can meet up again.

 

After the date, always offer to send her home. Whether she accepts or she rejects to you sending her home is not important, but rather, you should thank the girl for a wonderful time you had that day. If you feel that this girl is a suitable partner for you, your main priority during the date is to actually ask her out for the second date! Therefore, after thanking her for the wonderful time you shared with her, she should reciprocate your kind intentions by contacting you. If she doesn't contact you before the second date, it is quite understood that she is not that interested in you.

 

The second date should be within like one or two weeks after the first date. This is strongly encouraged for men as it is easier to try to keep the relationship at a comfortable pace during this time frame for the both of you. Should the girl tell you that she isn't free in the third week, it runs the risk of the romance dying down and you have to start everything all over again.

 

From a woman's perspective, we can safely assume that a girl is not interested in the guy if she keeps putting off the dates. For example, she might say that she is not available on the day itself when the both of you agreed for the date. This is largely due to the mistakes that you had already made when you asked her out way in advance.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman

Dating Advice - The Return to the Dating Scene

I know. The mere thought of the bar scenes, or even the thought of speaking with someone else, with the intent of finding a mate can be absolutely horrendous and a little intimidating.

 

People are crossing age barriers, dating either older or younger and it can be daunting for those of us that have been out of the 'meat market' for some time. While this expression may seem a tiny bit crude, upon further reflection you will realize that it is, in fact, a market, as I will explain.

 

Dating is not your traditional market. Each person enters it at different times and at different frequency, with different intents. Especially for the newly single in their 30s, 40s, 50s or older, it is important to stand your ground on key issues and ensure a match before pursuing any long term dreams and plans. 'Baggage' is a slang term denoting experience in a negative light. Our past experiences are what shape us and the baggage, we cannot be rid of. What we can do is grow and learn from these past relationships to live and love more profoundly and ultimately better.

 

Remember, any preconceived notions you may have about dating or others will be construed through your speech and your body language.

 

If and WHEN you re-enter the market: flaunt your wisdom, flaunt your assets and make sure to relax. Use your past experience as a basis for your conversations and your interaction with the other person. Each one of us is different but has something to offer.

 

by Penelope Phillips

How to Be Attractive Online?

When it comes to online relationships, we have to be creative. Even though they can't "see" us, we can still be attractive online.

 

We start with an attractive photo. That way they have a visual "image" of us.

 

Next, the entire profile should be "positive". Never have a profile that lists all of your complaints about the entire world! When someone lands on your profile that is like throwing a glass of ice water into their face. I promise you...that didn't make a good impression and they have no intentions of returning!

 

In your emails, make an effort to say something positive in each and every one. It might be as simple as commenting on the beautiful weather that weekend. Or a great sale you accidentally stumbled upon.

 

To be attractive online, fill your emails with energy. Never be a sad, pitiful, couch potato.

 

If you really want to be attractive online? Stop complaining! Believe it or not, no one...not even your family and close friends (they are faking it!) wants to hear about the entire procedure of having you ingrown toenail removed! No one wants to hear about your child's head lice...or your fathers hemorrhoids!

 

Another way to be attractive online is to stop bringing up your financial problems. Constantly talking about getting hit "again" for NSF fees and "if you didn't clip coupons you wouldn't be able to feed your children"...it makes you seem like a financial liability from the beginning! No one will knowingly or "happily" take on that burden.

 

To be more attractive online doesn't mean you have to lie. You just do not have to "dump" all of your problems onto someone that you've just met. Once your love interest realizes what a wonderful person you are, and how they are happy to have you in their life, then they are willing to starting taking on the "bad" stuff.

 

Check out a few online profiles...which ones made you want to get to know them better? Which ones made you want to run and not look back? Stop and figure out why...

 

Get started making yourself more attractive online! You have a lot of people waiting...!

 

by Vivian Johnson

I Always Attract Guys With No Personality - Why?

First of all there is no such thing as "No Personality". All men and women have personalities and they are all unique personalities. "No personality" is an irritating phrase manufactured by women who thought they were super attractive, and they have past this bad phrase onto all women. I used to hear it in the 1990's and now all women are saying it. Other charming words include loser, geek and nerd. Save these words for men that have been nasty to you, not guys that felt you were so special they built up the courage to approach you.

 

The chances are that these guys you are attracting are guys that lack a bit of self confidence. Life would be boring if all guys were self confident, they would all have super egos. You may think that "lacking self confidence" equals no personality but how do you know if you don't get to know them? Quite often these men with no personality just need one woman to boost their self confidence and as soon as they do they turn into very funny, vivacious guys. If you are not interested in these guys that keep approaching you, just politely tell them you are not interested, be flattered by the fact that there are guys interested in you.

 

I must also point out that he might only be lacking self confidence in approaching women; it does not mean he lacks self confidence in other areas of his life. And let's face it, the reason why he is probably lacking self confidence with women, is because he has had so many dimwits say "Get lost geek". Calling a guy a geek is bad news for you as well. News travels fast amongst his friends and associates that you called him a geek, so you have just ruined your chances with most of the guys in the immediate area. And they will remember if they see you again in another location. Just like women don't like nasty men, men don't like nasty women.

 

My recommendation though is to give a few of these guys a chance, try something different, spice up your life. Go out with them for anywhere up to a maximum of 1 month, if he is not confident or interesting in that time, then give him the elbow. If you are lucky you might have found a guy that thinks you are a princess for boosting his self confidence and enhancing his personality. If he thinks you are a princess, he will treat you like a princess.

 

by Sam Young

Face to Face Declaration

To declare your love requires a lot of bravery and guts. However, the two traditional ways which are the verbal method and the non-verbal method, can be done at ease.

 

Verbal Method

 

Verbal method allows you the use of additional gimmicks to boost your chances of success, such as setting the correct atmosphere. Another way of doing this will be to present a gift to her. Examples of gifts include flowers or jewelry.

 

If you feel that declaring your love is not really necessary, let me tell you that most women prefer their men to admit their love face to face, instead of actually allowing nature to takes its own course. In addition, the reason for confessing your love face to face actually allows the men to have the biggest benefit of having the opportunity to observe her non-verbal cues and react accordingly.

 

However, men who are aiming to confess their love verbally have to capture the correct moment and mood as there is going to be a prominent amount of awkwardness should the girl rejects you on the spot.

 

Non-Verbal Method

 

Just hold her hand while you are strolling at a quiet place during the date and observe how she reacts. If she asks you why, then you should use the verbal method to confirm your confession of love. As the saying goes, "Action speaks much louder than words." Some women may not prefer the verbal kind of confession and prefer your type of declaration to be more beautiful. One caveat is to know that such non-verbal methods of declaration are not suited for conservative girls and it will be much more difficult to ask her out for another date in the future.

 

Both verbal and non-verbal methods are good methods of love declaration and it allows you to make declarations a more personal affair. Even if you do fail, the girl would appreciate your effort.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman

Online Dating Tips - Let Your Profile Get the Girl!

Recently I was asked to help a female friend find a man on an online dating site. As we searched the profiles, I was staggered and quite dismayed at the lack of choice for my friend and I began to understand why she was having such a difficult time finding a mate. I saw several common problems throughout lots of profiles such as: a terrible photo, not enough detail or too many flippant comments or cliches that obscured the actual message,

 

The problem is that none of the writer's personality comes through, so the reader has to work hard to uncover it by asking lots of questions. Let's face it - that's not going to happen because there are so many other profiles, why would she spend time on yours?

 

So how do you write a killer profile that catches the reader's attention and makes her want to chat to you? The answer is simple - SELL yourself. Your profile is your advertisement, so it should be punchy, interesting and descriptive.

 

Follow these steps and you'll have so many messages to read that you'll need to have the size limit on your inbox increased!

 

1. A good photo! How do you decide which woman to contact - you check out her picture; if she's cute then she's passed the first test. So isn't it reasonable that women would do the same? It's so obvious yet so many guys either don't have one or choose some dreadful picture that looks like a Wanted poster or a school photo! Select a picture that conveys your personality - make sure you're smiling & it helps if it looks like you're having fun.

 

2. Avoid cheesy clichés and unoriginal or inappropriate jokes - again this may sound obvious, but it's shocking how many guys' profiles sound like they're the script from a 70's sit-com. Lines like "be the wind beneath my wings" or "seeking a special lady" do nothing but turn-off the reader and make her move on to another profile. If you can't think of something original or genuinely humorous, then just keep it simple and concentrate on descriptive and interesting comments instead.

 

3. Unless you're naturally so chatty that people often tell you to be quiet, you should write twice as much in your profile as you think you need. That doesn't mean fill it with useless waffle (see point 2 above); instead put some serious thought into what you're writing. You'll be surprised how easy it is if you imagine a beautiful woman is asking you the questions and you're trying to impress her with your answers. (While we're talking about impressing her, nothing is less impressive than incorrect spelling & bad grammar. Take the time to proof-read what you've written - or write it in MS Word and let the software check it for you before pasting it into your profile!)

 

If you're still in doubt about whether I'm right, have a look in your online dating site for other guys with the same characteristics as you - your competitors! Some of their profiles will have you laughing at how bad they are, some will leave you confused because they've not said anything about themselves, and some (probably only a few) will make you interested to the point where you go on to read some of their other pages too. These are the best of the best - the ones you should try to emulate because they'll be getting all the girls' attention (they got your attention, after all!).

 

Another point worth noting is there are certain key words that you should avoid using in your profile. Apart from the obvious smutty or rude comments, try to steer clear of "shy", "quiet", "loner" and "addict" (drugs, TV or sports!). They are real turn-off words that will have your potential mate running for the hills!

 

In summary, if you only do a half-hearted job of writing your profile, you're doing yourself no favors and you're turning away potential mates. To be a successful profile, it needs to sell your best attributes and that means it's descriptive and interesting with a good photo. If you follow these tips, you'll be surprised at just how many messages you'll get and you'll be able to pick and choose who you contact and who you date.

 

by James S Carter

Deadly Mistakes Men Make with Women - You Better Know These Before It's Too Late

Some men get to date the hottest women out there while others just keep shooting in the dark or trying to get any girl possible out there. Why is it that some men have the power to choose when it comes to women while others keep trying or fail constantly with women? You see there is a large difference between the guys who get hot women and the guys who get no women at all. There are several deadly mistakes men make when it comes to women which spoils all their chances of scoring a date. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and how to avoid them...

 

Being too nervous around women - Do you know that nervousness is a sign of a low self esteem which eventually means low self confidence. You see confidence is one thing every woman demands and if a guy is low on self confidence women automatically assume that this guy is weak and maybe not even good enough.

 

Being obsessed with her - Now this is another mistake several men make with women. You see hot women are always stalked by several males out there but the problem is that such women can't stand men who are obsessed with them. You see when you want them the most that's the time when you push them away the most as well. Therefore try to control your emotions.

 

Being desperate and miserable - Desperation is a kind of a disease several men out there are suffering from and this is the reason why they never end up getting the kind of women they desire. You see desperation means not being good or worthy enough. You see when you are desperate women look at you as if you lack something in your personality due to which you are not getting the kind of women you desire and this is the reason why you will automatically become a guy girls cant stand.

 

by Pushpa Pal Singh

Three Fear Manifestations in Dating

You are crazy about her. She's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen in your life. When you woo her, there are many love rivals vying with you as well. You woo her with fear of losing, fear of failure and the fear of financial loss. These fears may manifest in all aspects of your dating opportunities.

 

Fear of Losing Her

A guy who is scared of losing the girl that he is wooing has both positive and negative connotations. Many different handsome and successful men are after her. You may be scared of losing her will suddenly feel more motivated to get the girl. But, this motivation may drive a person into irrationality. A point of distinction you have to make is the reason why you like the girl. Is it unconditional love? Or is it because of the reason that many men are after her?

 

Fear of Failure

When a guy approaches a beautiful woman only to find that dozens of men after her as well, he get intimidated. Especially when the other men after all have much better attributes that him, he sinks into a state of inferiority and worse, depression. To make things worse, if the girl is very much sought after, he may not even dare to express his feelings for the fear of rejection. Ultimately, due to his fear, he gives up the girl.

 

Fear of Financial Loss

This is for the calculative guy who may manage his love circumstances the way he manages his stocks and bonds. Safety is the best precaution for the calculative guy. He feels that the girl that he likes is not worth pursuing and spends less time to woo her with the fact that there are many different men after her at the same time. My advice will be that you be as generous as possible in any potential relationship as stinginess will bring you nowhere near her.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman

Secrets to Attract Women

You might have realized how girls would ogle and squeal when they see a poster of Orlando Bloom. You might have guessed that all girls would only go for good-looking men. However, girls do look beyond looks and personality if you truly possess what's required to attract girls. Read on to discover the secrets to attract women and charm them with your personality.

 

Be a man who is in control of his actions. Your body language is very important when it comes to attracting the right kind of women. Women have their standards too. You might have seen before men who may look stunning but possesses poor body language. This would just deter the opportunity of attracting women. Women are extremely good at picking up men's body language. They talk as much as they observe. Trust me. As such, it is important that you work on your body language such that you are able to maintain a positive look throughout.

 

This may sound weird, but talking in a loud tone IS one of the secrets to attract women. The reason why some men don't make it big with women is because they are just too timid to talk. Or to put in crudely, they do not have a clue as to how to talk like a real man. See, women love manly man. If you are able to talk with a loud strong and confident tone, women will find this highly attractive. It will impress a woman more if you are able to offer her your own opinions when you are in a conversation with her. Not only that you are a manly man, she will think of you who as someone who is intelligent and this builds up on your charm factor. Be what you really are and just let your natural presence be felt.

 

Learn how to be the front seater. Don't always try to hide behind people's back. Instead, stand out from the crowd. Don't get lost among the rest. Be friendly and this will make you look approachable, and women will get drawn to your outgoing and fun personality. The front seater always gets noticed. However, do remember not to overdo it. It just makes you too loud a person and this might be the greatest turn off for most women.

 

Other secrets to attracting women would include polishing your communication skills. Wouldn't it be embarrassing if you keep on fumbling and tripping over your words, when the woman you are talking to is way much confident? It just shows that you are not her type. The way you talk to her shows a lot about your personality. If your conversation is full of slapstick jokes, some women might find in totally lame. Instead, be spontaneous and humorous. Make her laugh and she will find you attractive.

 

These are just some of the secrets that you need to know to attract the women that you want. If you failed on your first shot, don't give up yet. Not all women go for guys with your kind of personality. Keep trying and don't quit yet.

 

by Michael Dat

Some Topics to Avoid While Dating

It took a lot of lobbying to start dating her. You are still dangling the bait and she is giving it a critical look and a careful analysis while contemplating whether it is worthwhile swallowing it. Be careful not to scare her away. You might never see her again if she takes a flight. A slight mess and you will realize she has magical powers. She will do a disappearing act so fast your eyes will be left smarting. Avoid commenting especially on her looks, it is one of the topics to avoid while dating. Tell her what she wants to hear if it comes to this area of looks and cloth wear. She might be fat with ill-fitting clothes but woe unto you if you dare speak the naked truth. That is the last time you will hear from your date or even cast your eyes on her.

 

Avoid talking about your ex-lover. Actually the right term should be to completely stop mentioning your ex-lover at all costs. Talking about your ex-lover is the most annoying and outrageous thing you can do to your date. It gives you away and lowers your chances of baiting her. Bringing the ex factor into a new date shows that your mind is not there at that particular moment. You are actually thinking about your ex-lover while your new date is sitting right there in front of you. This is very mean. About your ex-lover is among the topics to avoid while dating because it shows you are yet to overcome the hangover of your previous relationship. You are not ready for a new relationship and your date can see through that. Which woman would want to be equated to another woman? You make her feel like a lesser woman. You are a senseless brute out to hurt her.

 

She has a rich history. She has been through the good and the bad side of life but anyway who does not have a history? As a dating advice, avoid that direction in your conversation. I assure you those are treacherous waters. You might drown yourself without even knowing it. Among the topics to avoid while dating is her past. Do not attempt to poke your nose into her past, it might get blown off. What you do not know does not hurt you and neither does it concern you in any sense. You also have a history and some of the contents in your history are in highly classified files that are only known to you and no one else. Let bygones be bygones and concentrate on the present situation. You are dating her and she is with you. Cultivate and nurture the relationship to achieve your set goals.

 

Her appetite is ravenous and her eating habits are wanting. Take it politely and do not talk about it. Tackle it at a later stage in the relationship. It is among topics to avoid while dating. She slurps her tea while drinking and it puts you off. Look for ways of grooming and fine tuning her in a friendly and light-hearted manner later. Topics full of jargon that only yourself understands should not find their way into the conversation. You will put her off and she will avoid your dates from that day henceforth.

 

by Francis K Githinji

Power of Aggression in Dating

"The best attack is the best from of defense." This is what most men say when they play aggressive sports. From a woman's perspective, it is definitely very much considerable in dating.

 

Why is it considerable? This is because the love game works the same way psychologically. You do know that there are many other men after the girl you are wooing as well. Similarly, they should know that they have many other competitors like you. The one way to ace this competition is to be very aggressive in your approaches. Be much more enthusiastic than the rest. But, please don't be over-aggressive in the aspect that you put her off.

 

If you are able to be much more aggressive than the rest of your competitors, they will be at a loss because their original plans are all disrupted. When these men are all caught by surprise, they will not think rationally most of the time. They are pressurized by the speed you are applying and will start doing everything illogically. Such examples will be like your competitors start to declare their love to her too soon. Being more aggressive in your pursuit towards a beautiful woman will put most of your opponents into their graves.

 

One caveat is not to try any sabotage tricks on your competitors. If you do try any sabotage on your opponents and the girl does learn about your actions. Your name will be strike off her "potential partnership list" for a long time and maybe, permanently. Try to earn the integrity of your fellow opponents. It is better to fail as a gentleman if she does fall in love with another guy.

 

Why?

 

There is a possibility that they might break off in the future and she will remember that you willingly withdrawn from the relationship previously. This future opening grants you another chance to be with her.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman

Signs She Is Interested

You were chilling at the bar and found out that the blondie in the corner is eyeing you. What should you do next? You are pretty confident she is checking you out, but maybe she is just fooling around. You looked away, but from the corner of your eye, you can still feel her electric stares. Is she interested with you or is she just playing around? How about learning a few signs she is interested in you. It will definitely come in handy the next time a girl is giving you the hot stares.

 

It is true that women can be pretty unpredictable most of the times, especially when it comes to trying to figure out whether she is interested with you. It may be confusing, but if you know how to read her mind and body language correctly, you will get to figure out whatever she is thinking. It is that easy. Here are some easy ways that you can use to check whether she is interested in you.

 

If you notice that a girl is eyeing on you, then check out these signs to see if she is really interested with you. When a girl is interested with you, she will tend to hold her gaze when your eyes meet hers. If you are lucky, she might even smile sweetly for you. As the matter of fact, you can already tell by the way she would look away shyly when you caught her staring at you.

 

If you are in a conversation with her, take note of her attitude. If she is always energetic and alert, then it is most likely that she would be interested with you. Your presence will cause her to be very attentive with what you have got to say.

 

At the same time, look out for her body language which includes leaning, twirling of hair and et cetera. If she leans towards you, then it is a very strong sign that she is very interested with you. So, if you sense that she tried to lean towards you as you were talking, then maybe she is having the hots for you.

 

As you are talking to her, take note whether or not she is attentive with what you have got to say. If you see that she is intently looking into your eyes as you talk, then it is another strong sign that she is interested with you. Intensify your gaze and she will immediately look away shyly. That is a big sign that she likes you buddy. This works the same way for almost every girl out there. So while you are talking to her, make sure you are able to catch her glance and monitor the expression she looks at you.

 

The biggest mistake that guys tend to make when they are around women is that they like to make assumptions. Don't do this guys, or you will end in disaster. Instead, take hints from her body language and her behavior. Some girls raise their voice a little louder when talking just go grab your attention while some girls might be slightly different and just get stumped when they see a guy they like.

 

Whatever it is, at the end of the day, do try your best to recognize these hints. They are not that difficult to spot on anyway!

 

by Michael Dat

5 Romantic Things to Say

You have the perfect date planned down to the last detail. Nothing has been left unaccounted for and everything is perfectly laid out. There's only one problem - you have no idea what to say! It seems the more we like someone, the more likely we are to fumble over our words. Normally intelligent people suddenly find themselves without anything interesting to say. No worries. Here are a few tried and true romantic things to say.

 

Compliments are always a great thing to give out to anyone you admire. The thing is, compliments must be sincere to work. People can always tell when you aren't being honest and it will ruin any plans you have. Another thing to consider is the type of compliment you give out. Women are used to men telling them they have a great smile or great eyes. Forget the standard go-to flattery. Admire things that take work to see. For instance, say "You are one of the smartest women I've ever met."

 

We always want to bring out the best in other people. Telling someone how they affect you and the way you think is one of the most romantic things to say. Women especially want to feel like they have an impact on the way you think and feel. Try something like, "You make me want to explore the world because you are so well-traveled." Explain to her that you want to be a better man because of her. That is the ultimate compliment.

 

A common complaint many people have is that no one listens to them. We spend so much talking about unimportant things, that our true hopes and dreams get neglected and ignored. One of the most romantic things to say doesn't involve saying anything! It's all about asking questions. Ask your date what he or she wants out of life. Ask them something like, "What would you do if you knew you could not fail?" He or she will be totally blown away. We aren't used to being interested in and it will undoubtedly leave a very positive impression of you.

 

Every day we play a role. Whether it is father, friend, employee or coach, we are different things to different people. One of the most romantic things to say to someone is that they allow you to be yourself. Saying something like, "I connect the truest part of my being to you. When I forget who I really am, all I have to do is look at you to remember." That will create a bond not easily broken.

 

A statement about your future together can make a good date extraordinary. It doesn't have to involve a lifetime commitment or even a declaration of love - it all depends on the stage of your relationship. It does have to show that the other person has had a lasting impact on your life. For instance, you could say something silly along the lines of, "I'll never be able to eat sushi again without thinking of how you crinkled your nose at that tuna." Or you could also be more serious by saying something like, "A life without you pales in comparison to a life with you in it." Talking about the future instantly connects a couple.

 

Sincerity is the backbone to any romantic gesture. Never say anything you don't mean and always use your own words. Reading a great line in a book might not translate well into everyday conversation. Play it straight from the heart and your partner will forever lock into memory all the amazingly romantic things you've said.

 

by Steve J Carter

Online Dating Tips - 3 Common Mistakes in Men's Profiles

Recently I was asked to help a female friend find a man on an online dating site. I was happy to help as this was how I'd found my own partner. However, this time I was seeing it from the female point of view, which was very illuminating.

 

The thing that really stood out was the sheer lack of thought and imagination in most men's online profiles. I was staggered and quite dismayed at the lack of choice for my friend and I began to understand why she was having such a difficult time finding a mate.

 

I decided that men need help to write a killer online dating profile. I saw several common problems throughout lots of profiles and I realized that most men's profiles seemed to fall into one of these 3 categories:

 

1. The strong silent type - this guy writes the absolute minimum in the hope that the reader is somehow psychic and can figure out his personality without words.

 

2. The comedian - this guy can't help writing one-liners throughout his profile. On the plus side at least he's taken the time to write a lot of words, it's just a shame that he's not chosen them more carefully. His message is lost amongst the jokes.

 

3. The cliché guy - if he's not a sports commentator then he should be! There's so many "walks along the beach", "snuggles on the couch" and "holding hands in public" that you think you're reading straight from the pages of "How to Pickup Women"!

 

The problem with all of these profiles is that none of the writer's personality comes through. So the reader either has to assume they don't have any personality, or she has to work hard to uncover it by asking lots of questions. Let's face it - that's not going to happen because there are so many other profiles, why would she spend time on yours?

 

So how do you write a killer profile that catches the reader's attention and makes her want to chat to you? The answer is simple - SELL yourself. Your profile is your advertisement, so it should be punchy, interesting and descriptive. Include a good photo, steer clear of bad jokes and put plenty of detail in there, so you sound like a good communicator - that's what women love! If you're still in doubt about whether I'm right, have a look in your online dating site for other guys with the same characteristics as you - your competitors! If you look at them from a woman's point of view you'll find that most are dreadful, only a few good ones stand out - these are the ones to copy!

 

It may seem like a lot of effort to go to, but when you have so many responses to your profile that you can pick and choose your dates, you'll be pleased you spent the time!

 

by James S Carter

5 Great First Date Questions

First dates can be very nerve-wracking! We worry that things won't go right, that we'll end up saying something stupid and that the other person simply won't like us. It's easy to get flustered when you feel nervous and unprepared. Making a quick note of great first date questions to ask can help you break the ice and appear more confident - even if it is only on the outside!

 

Thought-provoking first date questions that cause the other person to think will automatically give you high marks in their books. Most people want to feel challenged. They want someone on the same level as them. So, if you ask something along the lines of "where do you want to be in five years?" you'll get a great sense of who your date is. Their goals will tell you a great deal about the type of person they are and whether or not you are compatible.

 

Asking the question, "If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?" can be an excellent thermostat to measure a person's self-confidence and humility. It can be refreshing to hear someone note their flaws. Similarly though, it can be a real drag to hear a mile long list of why the person doesn't feel like they measure up. Your partner's self-perception and self-esteem will play a huge part in any potential relationship. You never want to find yourself responsible for someone else's happiness.

 

Another thought-provoking question to ask is, "what are you looking for in a relationship?" This can be a good way to gauge whether or not you are on the same wavelength. If you are looking to have some fun and the other person wants to have a baby, you might want to reconsider that second date! Making expectations clear upfront reduces stress and allows you to focus on the other person rather than on what comes next.

 

While asking first date questions requiring serious answers is great, you do want to remember that this is still a first date! You don't want your date to leave reconsidering everything he or she has ever wanted in life. Don't force them to delve too personally into themselves and always inject lots of humor into any conversation. A good sense of humor is one of the top qualities any person looks for in a partner. So, after you've had a deep conversation, lighten things up by asking something like, "how could a person royally screw up a first date?" That will get them laughing, but it will also help you avoid an upcoming pitfalls.

 

Fun first date questions also give you great insight into a person's character. Asking something like, "what was your most embarrassing moment?" allows the two of you to laugh together, but it also helps you gauge how well the other person handles the unexpected. If your date describes it as the "worst experience of her life," you might want to choose someone a little more easygoing. Life isn't going to be perfect...you want someone who can laugh at the crazy situations that inevitably come up.

 

As much as you might feel like you're being scrutinized on a first date, remember that the other person feels the same way. Engaging in some interesting first date questions is a sure-fire way to get past that initial awkwardness. Have fun with it, don't take yourself too seriously and always listen to what the other person has to say with sincerity. Every date is a learning experience that helps with the next one!

 

by Steve J Carter

Dating Tips to Beat Love Rivals

Ever had an experience when the bully in your school took your favorite pen? Or maybe like you have an arch nemesis at work and he excels in his work much better than you do? In dating, similar experiences occur, but the emotions are different. You will feel a significant amount of emotional pain being inflicted on you.

 

Elaboration about emotional pain is really difficult. For the men who had such related experiences will realize that actually in the dating arena, there are other people queuing in the same queue as you. Sometimes you don't even have a chance to express yourself (with other love rivals ahead of you) and sometimes you only have a single chance to perform.

 

Personally, I never believed in the reason of queuing. The world of relationships is extremely competitive. This girl that you have been looking for has an angelic face and a voluptuous figure. Unfortunately, many other different men are going to think along the same lines as you. This is where all the complications begin.

 

Maybe you are going after a girl who is of such low profile that no guys are seeking, or well, she may have some characteristics which are probably unbearable or unsuitable for most men. If you are one of those guys who go after beautiful women with plenty of suitors after her, you have to first acknowledge that you might have fallen in love with a "Universal" type of women. Women in the "Universal" category are like luxurious products (comparable to expensive cars, private jets and private yachts) to guys. Every guy will want to have a go for them if they ever have the slightest chance of succeeding.

 

You have to view her preferences as of utmost importance in this case. This is the only way to make yourself stand out among the various competitors who are going after the same girl as you.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman