What to Do On the Second Date? -2-

Congratulations on getting a Second Date. There are some things that you can do to make the chances of getting a third and a forth Date:

-          Carry on getting to know your Date

-          Stick to fairly short Dates

-          Keep it positive

-          Final chance

-          Don't rush anything

-          Compliment and talk about how you see their relationship

-          Do what you did on your first Date

-          Choose Topics carefully

-          Open up

-          Reference the first Date

 

On the Second Date you should still be in the stage, where you don't really know your Date, and you should still be getting to know them. Saying this, however the Second Date is not the time for night long discussions, so keep the Dates short, a maximum of 4 hours is the general rule of thumb. You don't want you Date to think, they are being held their against their will!

 

You should keep it positive, so don't talk about your ex partners. Don't moan and say that nobody likes you. Also don't discuss sex, women find this a complete turn off.

 

Sometimes the First Date might have been horrible, but you want to give them another chance. People can get very worked up over First Dates, which does affect them. If the Second Date is still strained, then just give up now, and don't give them another chance. The Second Date is the final chance, and another Date could be disastrous.

 

Don't rush straight into physical contact, and limit yourself to holding hands and playful nudging. Don't skip straight to kissing at the Second Date, perhaps this is more of a Third Date sort of thing. If you rush into things, you will come across as being insincere.

 

You should compliment your Date, and talk about, where you see your relationship going during your relationship, so you don't have to wait until the end of the Date to discuss this. Your Date will love to hear compliments.

 

You should continue doing whatever you did on the first Date. If you held open doors, or pulled out the chair for your Date to sit down on your First Date, then you should defiantly continue doing it on the Second Date. If you just stop doing it, then they will think that it was all just an act, and it won't be as impressive.

 

You should open up a bit more than on your First Date. Why not think up some embarrassing stories to tell your Date, and these will allow your Date to feel much closer to you, because they want to know everything about you, and if they are funny interesting stories, then that's even better! People like others that can laugh at themselves.

 

Try to open up on your Second Date, and everybody will be a little nervous on their First Date, which is perfectly understandable. Make jokes about yourself to show that you are a good Sport, and don't mind laughing at yourself.

 

Avoid talking about sensitive subjects such as religion and politics, you may not know exactly what your Date thinks about these subjects, and you don't want to rub them up the wrong way! It's best to talk about these things in other Dates, the Second Date is not the right time, and it would just lead to discomfort.

 

You should also reference the first Date, remember all of the things that you learnt about your Date during the first Date, and mention that. This proves that you were not only listening and paying attention, but also that you were genuinely interested. It's even better if last time your Date told you, that they would be doing something, now you can ask them how it went on.

 

Asking your Date how they got on shows, that you thought about them in-between your Dates, this is a very enduring quality.

 

by Morten Hansen

Seven Easy Dating Tips for Men Which Always Work

Dating today has become even more of a challenge for single men. Women tend to be more selective and pickier. Further, the internet makes it a lot easier to cheat and, even worse, hide it. The dating world is a jungle!

 

Yet, men continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over. Here are seven easy dating tips for guys to help alleviate some of the frustration of dating.

 

Learn the Art of Qualifying. Most men focus too much on a woman's beauty when they first meet her and do not genuinely try to build chemistry. They tend to rely upon lame pick-up lines and over-used routines. Rather, anytime you approach a woman, be sure to indirectly communicate to her that you are the one qualifying her and that it is not the other way around.

 

The art of qualifying is an important technique to master as this will make you much more attractive to her. Remember, though, that you should not waste your time on women who do not meet you criteria regardless of how attractive they are.

 

Avoid One-Way Conversations. Another good dating tip is to avoid a one-way conversation with a woman. If you find that you are talking to a woman and you are carrying the bulk of the conversation, you need to move on. That men need to entertain women to build attraction is a myth.

 

A sign of a good, balanced women is one that desires an engaging conversation and does her part of contribute. If you are conversing with a woman but she is only giving one word answers, it is a good sign that you probably need to move on.

 

Ask with Confidence. How you ask for a woman's phone number is very important, and it is not all about "what" you say. When the time comes and you want to ask for her number, be sure to do so with confidence.

 

Avoid the request coming across as purely an inquiry on your part, but rather look her in the eye and ask with an attitude of expectation. She will have no choice but to respond by giving you her number and contact information. Use this approach anytime you as for something.

 

Forget about Rejection. Many men do not approach women because they are afraid of rejection and, when it happens, they take it personally. They think her lack of interest is a reflection on them, who they are and what they have to offer a woman. This is very much not the case, as it is rarely a personal matter.

 

Actually, dating coach Rod Cortez says that roughly only two out of every ten women a man meets are actually not at a point in their life to meet someone new. He explains that they may be busy with their own lives or their career or education. Or, they may be involved with someone else. He also asks the excellent question of why anyone would want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them.

 

Learn the Art of Leading. Here's a little secret: Women really do expect the man to lead. If you find that you are always asking the woman what she wants to do, you will likely find yourself single again in the near future. An effective way to practice leading is to offer a woman two or three options before you make plans. If she tells you to pick one, quickly pick one without hesitating.

 

You should lead in general dating as well as in the bedroom. You must have a certain amount of sensory perception which takes practice.

 

Master the Art of Conversation. One thing I hear far too often is men telling me they do not know what to say. Fortunately, social skills are something that any man can learn and they are important skills to fine-tune. When I hear this, the most obvious thing it tells me is that he has not practiced enough. The fastest way to overcome this is to simply talk to everyone you come across.

 

Talk to the person next to you at the restaurant or bar. Talk to your classmate. Talk to your professor after class. Talk to the cashier, valet or waiter. You get my point. Basically, talk to everyone you meet including both men and women. This is one dating tip that has been proven time and time again as the best way to become more comfortable and confident in conversation skills.

 

Never Seek a Woman's Approval. As a single man trying to meet women, you should never outwardly seek a woman's approval. This should come naturally. Never try to impress a woman with your car, your job or expensive tastes. It also means you should never buy a stranger a drink. One woman said it best when she said she wants a "nice guy with an edge."

 

by Scott Patterson

Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend - Breakup Advice

Breaking up is one of the most painful things that many of us have ever gone though. The pain lasts for years sometimes, and a broken heart is not easily mended. If you have recently experienced the pain of a broken relationship and you want to get back your ex girlfriend then there are some practical steps that you can take to insure success. But don't expect it to happen overnight, and don't think that you can win them back over by forcing yourself on them. Here are some practical ways to get back your ex girlfriend and fall in love all over again.

 

The first thing that you should do is to enlist the help of someone that is outside the relationship. Make sure that they will keep your confidence because you will be trusting them with some information that could potentially do some damage if it gets back to your ex girlfriend. Many of us tend to look at things through rose colored glasses when we break up, and perhaps we are not seeing things as clearly as we should. If that is the case with you then having someone else give you their outside and objective opinion of the situation will go a long way in helping you to restore the relationship.

 

Look for the things that helped you to fall in love in the first place. What did they see in you then, and have you changed in a way that would have pushed them away? If you are going to change in order to win them back then you must be visible to them so that they can observe the changes but not too in their face that they will see through your efforts. Most of all, try to be their friend if at all possible, and build the relationship from the ground up.

 

by Savanah Douglas

How to Lose a Date - One Easy Way

Losing a date happens when you have acted in a way that is a turnoff. Often, when a recent date does not return your phone calls or emails, your first reaction might be to find something wrong with him or her. However, before you do that, look to your own behavior. There are several reasons you can count on, that will turn dates away. If you have ever wondered why he or she does not want to see you again, it may have something to do with the following: going out with you may not be fun because of your negative talk.

 

You can lose a date by using a continual stream of cutting remarks about your boss, coworkers, family, friends, people in general, or...YOUR EX. Nasty comments can make you extremely unattractive in almost all situations. But sarcastic descriptions of your ex, or whining about what your ex did to you, is a major turnoff when you are on a date.

 

When you are dating someone new, remember this: you don't need a third person with you. You especially don't need someone there who you have been in an intimate relationship with in the past. This line of conversation makes your current date feel uncomfortable. When you talk about your ex, you put him or her right there in the middle of you're getting to know each other.

 

You can't win doing this. If you say something nice about him or her, your date will automatically think you are still in love. If you say negative things, the person you are with may think you will say the same about them behind their back. It also makes you sound like a victim or a loser. And whatever you say about the ex, it will seem like you have not handled your baggage. This kind of baggage is not attractive.

 

Instead of losing the date, lose the baggage. Three people on a date is just plain crowded. Stay in the moment, stay happy, and stay interested in the person you are with. This is how you keep a date.

 

by Tonja Weimer

Dating and Being Single - Discover Your Best

Dating can be a great thing, but taking a break can be great as well. After a long relationship, some people feel as if they have lost themselves. Women are particularly bad at feeling this way! But, men are no strangers to these feelings as well.

 

If you have ever felt in a relationship that you are someone else because of your partner, you know exactly what I am talking about. Who knew that taking a break from being single could allow you to grow as a person and learn. Here is how to improve your life while you are single! These tips can help you not only in your future love life, but also in your career, with friends and just everyday interactions with others.

 

Time Heals All

 

While you have time to yourself, it can be a very healing process. When you are always tending to others needs you generally forfeit your own needs and desires. This is a great way to get yourself back together and pamper yourself just a little bit. When we do not take the time to care for ourselves and fall in love with ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to do so? It is impossible for anyone to love someone that does not love themselves.

 

Time also heals wounds and broken hearts that can cause damage to future relationships. As time passes by you will have a chance to forget all of those nasty things that your ex-lover did or said and put them behind you. You must forgive to move forward, notice we didn't say forget, but forgive. It is almost impossible to forget things that have hurt you, but you must move past them.

 

Self Acceptance I am Who I am

 

Sometimes during a break from a dating relationship, people become involved in a self-destructive or some times even a self-hatred cycle. They may blame themselves for the faulty relationship and really carry this anger on for years. Not only does this anger and destruction put the person in a bad mood, but it can also cause tremendous health concerns. Did you know that high blood pressure, anxiety and sickness have been attributed to stress? What do you think this anger and frustration does to the internal organs, that's right it eats away at them. You may be a young man or woman, but your internal organs and heart can only take so much abuse. You need to find a way whether it be reading a self-help book, counseling or a support group to let go of your anger. It will tear you up inside and cause others to not want to be around you.

 

So you are a little older, heavier and less hair? Who is perfect? No one, so do not be so hard on yourself. Appreciate what you do have and avoid sitting and feeling sorry for yourself because you do not look like a supermodel. Those people are not real; they are making believe with photo trickery, airbrushes and tons of makeup. No flaw or blemish on them, but that is because it has all been touched up. So enjoy what you have and feel blessed instead of disappointed.

 

Set New Goals

 

A great way to promote a healthy self is to set goals and plan how you want your life to be. Many people believe whether it is a dating relationship or their career that they are bystanders in their own life. This "bystander" theory could not be further from the truth. If you sit back and wait for things to happen, they never will. You have to take the "bull by the horns" so to speak and direct your own life. If you don't do it, then who will? Is anyone else looking out for your best interests, financial situation or dating relationship? The answer is no, this is your job.

 

The best way to ensure that you are getting what you want is to set goals and plan out how you will achieve them. This is not hard to do, it just takes time, patience and a little bit of self-discipline. Write down your goals; list how you can achieve them and then DO IT!

 

by Lee Blackspur

How to Dump a Guy Nicely? Feel Free Not Guilty

There comes a time in almost every relationship where you think it might not work out but your partner does not want to let it go. There is no point in carrying on a relationship if you are not into it anymore. To make a relationship successful both parties should be willing to commit. Therefore it is better to dump the person you are with and move on. Now dumping a guy is not as easy as it sounds. It can lead to anger which might turn into revenge and you might suffer from your partners end. Therefore it should be done in a nice friendly manner keeping the person's feelings in mind.

 

Never dump a guy on the phone - People think they can easily get away with that last phone call, sms or an email. This leaves the person being dumped confused about the possible reasons why and he would most probably contact you again and would keep bugging you until you give him a valid reason. There have been many cases where by when a guy was dumped on the phone or any other non physical manner it got him angry which indeed lead to mental and physical assault to the female. Therefore you need to be careful as it's only a matter of time when your ex turns into a beast.

 

Tell him why - Always provide the guy with valid reasons why you dumped him. Be honest about the things which you did not like about him and wanted a change. Even if you do not have any reasons and just have a feeling inside you that the relationship is dead simply tell him that you two are not compatible and moving on is the best option.

 

Be friends - Do not end the relationship on a sad note. Tell him that you two will still be friends and would always be in contact no matter what. Discuss the issues and problems out together.

 

Don't be guilty - We all get a guilty conscience after we have done such an act. But this was absolutely important and was a necessity for you. Life is limited and you need to look for better things. All human beings move on after a while and time heals it therefore the guy you dumped would eventually move on as well and would find someone else.

 

by Pushpa Pal Singh

Do You Know the Top Online Dating Sites?

Top online dating sites will offer a more superior quality and service compared to other sites. This is the main reason why they have found themselves on top. Good service is usually not easy to find. This is because there are many online dating sites that tend to confuse singles. It is vital to filter all these sites and ensure that you land on the top site. Not all top online dating sites come with superior features. Many are just popular because they have a popular brand name. It can be a challenge analyzing these top online dating sites. The only thing you are required to do is to find out what kind of service they provide. Then, you will judge whether you want that kind of service. If you are gay, you will be looking for the top dating sites for gays. The same goes for other categories. Top sites will come with many features and, the most common has to do with cost. Many people want to go for a service that seems to be fair. These days, sites have generated new pay plans that are flexible and efficient. You can pay for as low as a month to a year. You also have the option of withdrawing any time. Top sites ensure that clients or singles are comfortable with the price plan. This is a major factor to consider, when you are looking for good top sites. You do not have to search the sites one by one; the Internet has made your work easier by giving you a list of top rated sites.

 

Top online dating sites usually have the proper content needed to facilitate the dating process. First, they come with the all important dating tips. There is nothing more vital than this knowledge. The know how has enriched many relationships to become stronger and more informed. More and more singles come out of bad relationships with no sense of direction. Top sites ensure empowerment of members not to repeat the same mistakes of the past. The provide experts who are qualified and trusted in guiding singles in their experiences. Top online dating sites usually come with a clear and concise way of communicating. Simplicity is what all people are looking for. The process of registration must be easy and straight forward; this is what makes tops sites. The other thing is security. Online dating sites have the duty of ensuring that the members are safe. There are several strategies that top online dating sites employ. The first thing is to have a strict policy on safety. This goes a long way to display commitment to providing a good service. Screening of backgrounds and stern warnings are among the strategies the groups employ to ensure they discourage criminals in their path.

 

Top sites are made by experience and success stories. Testimonials will speak for themselves. Before you join top sites, read a few of them and get a preview of the kind of success you expect. It is encouraging to know that there are top sites you can rely on to match you.

 

by Francis K Githinji

12 Tips How to Make Good Photos for a Successful Profile Online

The good-quality photo, attached to marriage profile, is the main step towards success. The best is to have professional shots taken in a studio. However, if you prefer to make photos yourself, then our tips will guide you.

 

1. Interiors

 

Remember, though, that the setting for the photo-shoot is extremely important; it should not take the emphasis away from you but, at the same time, it should not be dull or boring. Apartment interiors which contain sofas, cushions, wall carpets, soft toys, books and such like are definitely not suitable. That said, if you have the opportunity to take the photograph in a stunning, contemporary home then, by all means, make the most of the opportunity! It is best if the backdrop is monotone.

 

2. Lighting

 

Always pay attention to the lighting as it should always be sufficient. The best type of lighting is natural light or sunlight. However, if there is little sunlight, then you will need to switch on the electric lights. Be sure that the light is not cast downwards, but focused on you. Choosing the correct lighting is the key to getting a good photograph. This reinforces the point that it is best to place your confidence in a professional.

 

3. Environment

 

Pay attention to the environment, your outer appearance and your attire which should not be too extravagant. Play around with the contrasts. Take several photos in various clothes and poses and also in different places. You don't have to just take photos in the home; you can also take them outside, provided the setting is stunning and you can get an artistic shot. That said, I will stress again that it is best to entrust a photographer with this, his professional flair will ensure the very best of photographs.

 

4. Variations of smiles

 

You must look gorgeous in the photograph as well as intriguing, alluring, confident, approachable, self-assured and dignified. Try taking a range of shots; some with beaming smiles, some with half smiles and some with hardly any smile so as to give your appearance a certain mystique. Serious, stern faces and expressionless, unfriendly appearances do not attract people's attention. Neither do haughty and cold looks. If you don't know which pose to go for, then have a flick through your photo albums or women's magazines beforehand and replicate what looks best in front of the mirror. Do not be afraid to improvise during the shoot, put on some upbeat music or chat to someone to prevent you from feeling self-conscious.

 

5. Style of clothing - how to choose the correct one

 

An extremely important factor in obtaining a great photo is your clothing. Your attire should be not too dressy but it should also not be too plain. Your clothes should not be overly modest but, at the same time, they should not be excessively flamboyant. Dresses, pinafores, different styles of skirt and blouse as well as stunning tops are perfectly suitable. You can even wear trousers, but you must remember that men prefer women to be feminine and trousers are the not the most feminine of items, (although several can get away with them). Don't wear too much jewellery and it is best not to wear a ring.

 

6. Fitting of clothes and its color

 

Your clothes should be appropriate. They should not be body-hugging. Your clothes need to suit you and draw attention to your assets while concealing your inadequacies. Buy yourself something new after a consultation with someone in the shop. Also ask for men's opinions as to whether the clothes suit you or not. Don't wear clothes that are multicolored or too bright. It is recommended that clothes should match the hair color and eyes.

 

7. Don't overdo with cosmetics and hairstyle

 

Don't wear too much make-up and don't go for elaborate hairstyles. If your hair is long, the best thing you can do is to wear it loose and leave it natural. This gives an excellent representation emphasizing what men value the most: women should look feminine and elegant. Wear make-up so that it looks natural and is hardly noticeable. If you wear layers of slap, then it is difficult to see your face. Your face should be fresh and pure. Your photograph should show off your true nature.

 

8. Photos on different days

 

Don't just take one photo on one day. Take several shots over several days. This way you can change your disposition and the photograph accordingly so as to get the very best look. On different days, you can invent different scenes and settings for the shoot; in time you may even come to enjoy this hobby and take many more beautiful and fascinating photographs.

 

9. For women: do not ruin your chances - be modest

 

Never submit an extravagant, explicit photograph if you are searching for a husband; men want modest and respectable wives. Explicit and personal photos do not convey those qualities that men are searching for in a wife since, at the end of the day; they are looking for worthy mothers to their children.

 

10. For men: successful look

 

Men look best when they are wearing an outfit with a tie, or a shirt with trousers. Young men can get away with wearing jeans and a smart t-shirt or pullover. Don't wear sporting attire as it is a goofy look. It is best not to take photos with an expensive car in the background; this might look very appealing to gold-diggers. These types of photo show that the man is a show-off and wants to attract a frivolous, money-grabbing lady. Also, be careful not to show photographs with a bare torso as this comes across like you are non-committal rather than showing off your amazing physique!

 

11. Add at least 3-4 photos of different types

 

Put several photos of yourself on the site. Try submitting one photo that only shows your face, one that shows off your whole body and finally, one that is your favorite. Make sure that your head is not cropped in the photo and that your feet can be seen in the one of your whole body. Have several great photos on standby as they can be sent off to potential partners with letters of correspondence. Photos can ensure the best chance of contact and can help your partner to know you better.

 

12. Be critical, seek for advice

 

The quality of the photo is very important, since, without a good quality photo you can go unnoticed or even be cast aside. We urge you to be critical of the photos that you place on the site. Ask for people's opinion; your friends for example. It is important that the photo is a good representation of you so that you can be seen in the best and natural light.

 

And last, but not least - as soon as you get a chance, use the services of a professional photographer. The huge increase of responses and interests expressed will make you regret you did not do it before.

 

by Lilia Parker and Alice B.

Great Ways to Flirt With Women

Flirting is extremely fun for everyone playing the game. Women love it because they feel special. Men love it because they get to play with different women and it's socially acceptable. What could be more fun!

 

A great smile is the first way to flirt. Nothing quite like smiling at beautiful woman that's with someone else who's smiling back at you. Women love being noticed by men. A smile is the easiest and safest way to flirt from across the room. You don't want that guy she's with coming unglued.

 

Make sure that you showcase your masculinity. I don't mean show off your masculinity as in be real macho. I mean let her see that you are a strong man who is secure in his opinion of himself How you carry yourself and interact with others says a lot for you.

 

Make and maintain eye contact. People believe that the eyes are the windows to the soul. More importantly they know instinctively that by looking someone in the eye you have nothing to fear. It means you're secure, honest and open. By looking them in the eye you're letting them know that they're eye candy for you. Who doesn't like that?

 

Don't plaster a sardonic smile on your face but make sure that you keep smiling, especially as you're making eye contact. That smile says that you're friendly and it's an open invitation to smile back. Smiling is infectious and if you smile she'll likely smile and that will affect her mood toward you.

 

Women love big square shoulders. It displays a man's virility. Women generally go for a guy that's taller. One that slouches gives the impression that they're weak or sickly. Stand up straight like your mother told you and square those shoulders.

 

Mirroring is the art of duplicating the body language of another person. Be observant of her body language. Then duplicate it so it looks like she's looking in the mirror. If she raises her left arm as she's facing you then you raise your right arm. Become the mirror image of her and it will convey a comfortable connection in her mind.

 

by Alex R Coulson

Expert Advice about Christian Dating Services

Christian dating in the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom is rapidly flourishing on the Internet dating scene today. More and more Christians are finding true love or friendship easily and often it's free. Be willing to be open to meeting new people. You want to make sure to meet in a safe place. You may be looking for just pen pals, seniors or friends.

 

It's a fact that single Christians have a deep desire to connect with other singles. They are not only looking for that special soul mate, but also yearn for good friendships with other Christian Singles who are fun-loving and like minded. There are Christian singles dating services from all denominations including Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran and Methodist.

 

Besides online singles there are many single parent Christian dating groups offline too. Make sure you check out your local area or next largest town or city to see if they have any Christian singles groups. Local churches that have Christian singles groups make a good meeting place and it's likely a free Christian dating service.

 

You'll find there are quite a few dating services online. Some are huge with highly recognizable names and do have Christian dating section. Typing in 'Christian' when you are setting up a profile on a non-Christian dating service will tell you how many matches or possibilities there are for you in the event you decide to sign up at the end of a free trial. When looking for your soul mate or life partner give preference to a person who has similar interests.

 

The speed of the websites, search functions and options will certainly vary from service to service; check these out before you register. If a dating service has only a small membership, a large share of them may not be in your age group or be the wrong gender. Read the matchmaking or dating service contract carefully. Make sure you aren't signing a contract for a specific period that you can't get out of in the event you find someone or want to quit.

 

Sign-up for all the free trials you find on several dating websites. Most of the dating services will let you see what men, women or teens over 18 are listed but won't let you email them until you're a member. Many of the local Christian singles groups don't do any marketing or advertising to promote themselves and depend on word of mouth by singles or church members to recruit new members.

 

So, whether you want to find friends or dates with Christian singles online, find a reputable Christian Dating Service, dating site reviews, pen pals, personals, chat rooms, social networks, matchmaking sites or Christian dating advice you'll be able to find it all on the Internet. Unfortunately most churches don't have the resources to meet the needs of Christian Singles, so consider starting a group yourself. Single Christians have a deep desire to connect with others and are not only looking for that other special single. They may also just desire great friendships with other Christian Singles.

 

by Helen Hecker

Does She Like Me? - 5 Proven Ways to Know

Wouldn't it be easier if females could simply approach you and tell you what they feel about you? But in the real world things aren't as simple and it's a tough job sometimes trying to figure whether she likes you or not. Different girls have different ways of expressing their emotions and liking for someone. There are some proven ways by which you can figure out whether she likes you or not read on to discover how.

 

She follows you with her eyes - Have you ever seen her follow you with her eyes? Following means she looks straight at you no matter which way you travel and sometimes when you look at her she looks away than tries to look at you from the corner of her eye? If this is the case than she does like you.

 

Finds an excuse to talk - Does she talk to you a lot? Does she start talking to you about any random topic out of the blue just to get a conversation going and is really interested to know what you have to say? If you answer is yes again than this is a very strong indication that she is interested in you.

 

Does she remember everything you said? - If she remembers everything you tell her during a conversation and remind you what you talked about the other day than she is definitely into you. Any human beings being would be more active if that person is actively interested in something. She would give you many signals in the conversation that she likes you and would be looking for your approval.

 

Giggly - Sometimes when girls like something she laughs or giggles more than usual and would laugh at jokes which aren't even funny. This is such a condition where the girl is totally into you and is looking for a signal from you.

 

She can't relax - This is the best way to find out whether she likes you or not. If she has the hots for you she would not be able to relax around you. She would try to look her best and act her best at all times around you just to impress you. She would be careful and tentative about her every move and she would try her level best to do everything right this is why that extra bit of pressure would show on her face of lack of comfort.

 

by Pushpa Pal Singh

First Date - Things to Remember!

Everybody feels nervous and puzzled on his/her first date. Let's face it. For many of us, dating is a big challenge, as we don't know a lot about each other, or are simply meeting in person for the first time.

 

We aren't sure what to say, how to act and the most important thing - how to impress.

 

There is nothing to worry about, as it is quite natural to feel that way. Even the experts have felt that way.

 

Remember, the main idea behind your first date should be to get to know each other better. Put everything else on the back burner (at least for the time being).

 

You should know about her hobbies, interests, family and friends. But sometimes, instead of talking about each other, some people enter into the "silent zone" during their first date. It should be avoided in any case.

 

If you aren't sure about what to talk about on your date or what questions to ask, choose any general topic, such as new album of your favorite band, some new movie release or even the weather e.g. "Don't you think weather is too cold today?

 

But, never talk about money, cast, creed, religion, politics etc. on your date, as most people get sensitive and aggressive on these topics.

 

Things to Keep In Mind:

 

You must follow some simple rules prior to actually going out on a date. These rules would make your event successful and memorable.

 

Plan With a Back Up

 

No matter, what your plan actually is, think about some close alternative. A back up plan is necessary to save your date from being spoiled. Expect the unexpected to happen. The weather may change anytime and your favorite restaurant may close for renovations. A back up plan in this case would make your date successful.

 

Make Your Date Short and Sweet

 

Your date must be short enough to make the other person crave for more and look forward to another meeting with you. Being on an all day tour is a big no-no. Moreover, the chances of you fumbling and ruining the event due to nervousness or anxieties would be substantially lowered. Always remember this golden rule.

 

Be Punctual

 

Punctuality is very important especially for your first date. If you are late, it will show a sign of disrespect for your date. Being punctual would show your date that you are a man of commitment and you care about her.

 

Compliment Her

 

It is important to compliment your partner on your first date. The compliment can be about her tastes, the way she carries herself and her opinions. If the situation is right, appreciate her body and tell her how she looks. Believe me, they'd love it.

 

Listen To Her

 

You must concentrate on listening to your date and respect her opinion. Remember the golden rule "first listen and then talk".

 

Be Comfortable

 

Don't wear something just because it would make you look cool or macho. Wear something that you feel comfortable with.

 

Choose the Location with Care

 

You must choose the location for your first date with utmost care, because the main purpose of the first date is to know each other better.

 

Last but not least, a first date is special for everyone. Even after many years, you probably remember the first time when you took a girl out, the place you chose and the moments you spent.

 

Feel confident, keep smiling and wear clothes you feel comfortable in and try to understand your girl well. You must make your date feel that you are happy with her.

 

We hope by following the rules mentioned above you would definitely make your first date a successful one.

 

by Alexander Faust

Choosing the Perfect Restaurant for Your Date

Choosing a restaurant for your date is somewhat like going on a treasure hunt. With some forethought and careful planning you could find the perfect restaurant and strike gold!

 

When choosing a restaurant for your date, remember you are looking for romance, excitement and passion! Look for a restaurant that has a romantic ambience and offers you a delightful mix of fine dining, low lighting and some smooth jazz to spice things up a bit.

 

Specialty restaurants that have unique dishes they are well-known for are a great choice, provided of course you know your date's special likes and dislikes. Avoid a potential dating snafu by asking about preferences upfront. Taking a sushi-hater to a Japanese restaurant could be an unmitigated disaster. On the other hand if you found out that your date loves sushi, booking a cozy table at a specialty Japanese restaurant could win you huge, ummm sushi points. It shows you care and have gone out of your way to please your date. Avoid going to restaurants that are famous for their lobster or rib dishes. Struggling with your food is decidedly unromantic.

 

You are definitely not looking for comfort on your date so avoid taking your date to your regular hang-out. You may feel at ease among familiar surroundings and familiar faces, but it's kind of hard to be romantic with so many eyes looking over at your table trying to catch your attention. Besides your date cannot but help wondering how many previous dates you've brought here before.

 

Lighting can do a lot to detract from or add to the romantic ambience of the restaurant. Low strategic lighting boosted by a candle placed on each table is a huge plus point. Gazing into each other's eyes over candle-light is tres romantic.

 

Live music is great for upping the romantic atmosphere. Look for a restaurant that has a live band that plays soft music, classy tunes and romantic melodies. Avoid restaurants that play loud, blaring music. You'll never get a chance to whisper sweet nothings in your date's ears with all that noise around you. Also steer clear of wandering violin serenaders and mariachi bands that pop up at your table at the most inopportune moments.

 

by Gabriel J. Adams

Internet Dating and Online Personal Tips

Internet dating, yes it's in and in the trend. Dating is now international and in this busy day-to-day life it's almost impossible for one to find time and go for a date outside. Since most of us find ourselves busy in front of our computers need not have to miss that special dating for which you always wanted to have as you can do it right in front of your computer in your convenience at your comfortable time.

 

Internet dating is so wide - spread that it's hard to find a person who has not tasted its fun. A lots of services are provided by most of the on - line services that you can browse through it and find out the best one of your interest. You must be a bit doubtful whether to get into or not, for your convenience you can check out with your friends and relatives and find out just what you were missing by not looking for or going for an online dating.

 

You can even get some tips or advices from those with previous experience just to avoid those silly mistakes to which you might bump into.

 

The first step would be to create a personal ID with your personal details its better to give the right information rather than a wrong one as you won't have to feel embarrassed in the run on finding it out by somebody else with the wrong indication about you. So once your personal advertisement inviting dates are created, you can go in search for your date with your priorities in.

 

Looking for a single man, a woman or a person who gets along well with your personal interest is now simple. You can browse through others personal information looking for the right person or looking for the person of interest for you. The advantage in this online dating is you can know the details about the person you would like to date with much before you really date with him or her. So you can make up your mind as to how to present yourself during your dating.

 

Ample online services had made online more comfortable and choosier as you can short list your search depending on your likes for the search. On- line dating is comfortable as you are not totally exposed in front of your date and you can enjoy your dating sitting in the cosiness of your own room or wherever comfortable only requirement you have to be connected online sustain.

 

Online dating has sometimes turned out to be tricky pulling you down to vague personalities and a little care in your conversations and being a bit choosy can make all the difference. Its fun and it's the place where most of our really busy in work friends try to find a relaxation and enjoyment in their hectic schedule. So what is stopping you to take a leap in to this online dating which is soon going to be a tradition among us, which is going to be passed on to the coming future.

 

by Victor Thomas

How to Make a Move - Keys to Dating

Let's take a look at some situations with girls that most guys get nervous about when dealing with women.

 

1) Approaching the girl. This initial meeting or introduction is never even made for many guys. They just watch her across the room wishing they had the guts to talk to her.

 

2) Asking for her number. This is terrifying for many guys. They might have a great conversation with her, but they aren't able to take it to the next step.

 

3) The first kiss. This takes a lot of courage for most men. Most guys let plenty of opportunities pass them by before they finally make this "move".

 

I am going to stop there for now. There are many other situations, but the above three illustrate my point. They all involve a situation where the guy faces the possibility of rejection.

 

What if the girl doesn't talk to me or makes me feel like an idiot? What if she gives me a fake phone number or laughs at me?

 

Guys are afraid of rejection. It can be a huge blow to the ego. Who likes that?

 

But you MUST get over it. Your fear of rejection is holding you back from enjoying the success with girls you deserve. Not only that, but since girls are used to guys acting nervous in these situations, you have the opportunity to shine by not being intimidated and facing the challenge.

 

Today I am going to look at a few ways to decrease your chance of rejection and ultimately improve your success with women.

 

What are some areas that I find guys ask me "How to make a move?" Well, there are many. But let's focus on two for now. 1) Getting a girls phone number. 2) Asking for a date.

 

Ok, I'm excited. I love the nervous energy that comes along with each of these situations. I get a huge rush from it. It's easy to turn this nervous energy and turn it into a positive thing.

 

Ok, enough about me, let's look closer at each scenario.

 

1) Getting a girl's phone number Here I am assuming you have already approached a girl and started a conversation (To learn about how to successfully do this make sure to sign up for my free course at my website). Remember from my previous articles you have started a light-hearted, funny conversation where you have been able to make the girl laugh while coming across as though you were just starting a regular conversation NOT hitting on her.

 

I like to challenge myself to get a phone number within five minutes. You want to strike while the irons hot. If you wait too long, you risk the chance of running out of things to say or having awkward silences.

 

I also always encourage being the one who ends the conversation. By being the one who has to go because you are "meeting friends, need to get a drink, have to return a call" etc. it gives you social proof and heightens the girl's curiosity.

 

The key here is to make it comes across as natural and laid back as possible when you ask for her number. Have a routine and stick to it. Do not let it comes across as rehearsed though.

 

I like to ask them if they have an email. When they say yes, I simply say "ok, you're an interesting character. I have to get going but write it down for me so I have it". Notice I am not "asking" for it. I am telling them to give it to me.

 

While they are writing the email down, I then say "and jot down your phone number too." Do it naturally and it comes across as extremely smooth. This method has a high success rate since it doesn't come across as creepy whatsoever.

 

2) Asking for a date - There are a couple of different ways of doing this. Remember, as I always stress, be confident and do not appear nervous. You want this to seem natural and unrehearsed.

 

For now, I am going to suggest you use a line involving the term "friendship". I talk about the psychology behind this in one of the first lessons of my free course.

 

Use a line like "Well let's get together for a friendly drink. You sound like someone who would be a great friend." Of course, you can change the word "drink" to something else. Any type of informal outing is fine.

 

The key here is that you are coming across as though you are interested in being friends with her. Girls are shocked by this! And shock leads to intrigue.

 

You see, girls don't ever get asked out like this. Who could have thought! A guy who wants to be friends!?!?

 

This makes her very curious and makes her feel as though you are a challenge. If you do this in person, you can actually see her thinking to herself "Isn't he interested in me? This is different."

 

A lot of guys feel weird or awkward using this tactic at first. But it is SO effective. I guarantee you that it will not only help you land a date, but also pay dividends on the date itself.

 

So there you go How to make a move in those crucial moments. When you are prepared and have a proven game plan, you have no reason to fear rejection. Embrace the challenge and I promise you that you will succeed. In the next article I will look at two more "crucial moments". The first date (when you are out on the date) and the first kiss. Until then, happy hunting!

 

by Will T Mason