How to Lose Guys - Two Easy Ways to Ruin a Date

Are you aware of what you do that causes you to lose guys? Do you worry about losing the interest of someone new you are dating? Would you like to avoid some of the deal breakers? Here are two big reasons why guys won't and don't call you back after you go out with them.

 

BODY LANGUAGE

 

How do you lose a guy? Pay attention to your body language. You may be sending messages you are not aware of. How you feel about your looks, your personal life, and what kind of person you think you are, is expressed through your physical gestures. Ask your friends how you act and what you look like to a stranger. Do you appear aloof, needy, or insecure? If any of those behaviors are present, you can change your body language by changing your thoughts. Visualize yourself as calm, happy, and secure. Remember moments in your life when you were proud of your accomplishments. Picture the faces of the people who love you. Just those thoughts alone will send a different message to those observing you.

 

It is also important to monitor nervous mannerisms. Shaking your foot, picking at your nails, twisting a piece of your hair, or tapping your fingers on the table will not attract guys. Neither will crunching ice, chewing gum, or constantly looking in a mirror.

 

SEXUALLY SUGGESTIVE REMARKS OR CLOTHING

 

Another easy way to lose guys is if you go out wearing a top you are falling out of or slacks that are too tight to sit down in. You are sending a message you might not want to own. Many women complain that all men want is sex and then show up wearing clothing that shouts SEX. Further, if you are having a conversation with a man and you keep referring to the topic of sex by the explicit stories you tell, the jokes you make, or a detailed list of your sexual history, do not be surprised if he gets the "wrong" idea about you. Worse, you set up a conflict within yourself if you do not recognize what you are doing. You are setting yourself up for a one-night-stand or rejection.

 

If you don't want to scare away the attractive nice guys, pay attention to your body language and your verbal language. Be clear about the messages you are sending. The above are two easy ways to ruin a date.

 

by Tonja Weimer