Dating Despite Stereotypes - Conquer Your Image, Get the Women You Want

We're all a mix of many different things. Girls and people in general, will see different parts of who we are.

 

So when I get asked the question "Can I get success even though I'm ___________?" I shake my head. I get all of the following: Too "short", "tall", "fat", "skinny", "old" or "young"; also insert every race. I've seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed.

 

This is a common problem. You probably don't like every single thing about yourself. Who does? Hopefully you're trying to work past the things you don't like and become the best person you can be. But what if you're short? What can be done about that?

 

Your height isn't going to change, but I don't you care about that. No, what you care about is getting the results you want out of your social and romantic life, bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet. Regardless of your height, you can bed plenty of beautiful women, and have very hot girlfriends.

 

Just remember this:

 

The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.

 

Read that again.

 

The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.

 

If you're short, you don't want people to think "Wow, he's a short guy" when they meet you. You don't want to give off a 'short vibe'. Instead, you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image.

 

When a 20-year old woman
sees Mel Gibson, does she think, "He's old"? No way! She thinks he's a movie-star, and seems fun and cool and successful. Look at Hugh Hefner, even. Hugh is a bazillion years old, but his image is one of a certified, legitimate, full-on playboy. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with.

 

What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.

 

A common question I get is, "I'm _________ race, can I get _________ race of woman
?" I hear a lot of Asian guys wondering if they can get white women. The question is: Is your image "Asian"?

 

My image is not "white". If the first thing a woman
thought when she saw me was: "This guy is white", then I'd be in trouble. I'd be super-boring. Now the majority of people in America are Caucasian. If you're Caucasian in America, any image is stronger than the fact you're white, because being white is boring and normal. Whereas if you're another race you might need an immediately stronger image.

 

This works for and against guys whose races are stereotypical of being alpha and powerful, like Latino and black men. But what if you're Asian? Or Indian? The stereotypes of those two races in America are pretty much not positive when it comes to their relationships with women. What you need is an image to put forward that is stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.

 

I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked like members of Triads. They were ripped, had dragon-tattoos and had shaved heads. They had hot girlfriends, luxury cars, nice clothes and a "Don't mess with me" look.

 

When any woman
looked at one of these guys, she didn't think, "He's Asian." She thought "He's powerful" or "He's a gangster" or "He's buff."

 

As an example, let's compare two Chinese guys I knew. One went to that gym. He was about 5'5, but he had muscles upon muscles. They called him "the bull". I called him respectfully called him "el toro". This guy had women all over him, black, white, Latin, and of course Asian as well.

 

On the other hand, I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. He had thick glasses, wore rumpled clothing and slouched over. He had no image, so women would lump him into the category of "asexual Asian guy". They'd buy into the stereotype that he's asexual, because the image he put forward was not stronger than any potential negative stereotypes around him.

 

Everybody has something that's unappealing to some group of women. You're either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or something. I had to make a brief pass through France recently. You can bet yours that I didn't want people to think "American" when they met me. I wanted women to think "Wow, what a stylish powerful guy." When women asked me where I was from, I'd tell them to guess. They would guess "Amsterdam", "Italy", and "Russia" which meant I was doing something right. I didn't put off the negative vibe associated with Americans in France.

 

I've been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. I've been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn't speak fluent Mandarin, Spanish, or Creole. But I'd keep a warm smile and a good vibe of course everyone knew I was white, but I wasn't "the white guy". If you're wondering, "Am I too short?" then you are putting off a short vibe. Tom Cruise is pretty short but his image is larger that his stature.

 

The shortest student I've ever brought three new women into his life within two months of completing live training with me. He didn't identify with being a 'short guy'. He didn't have a 'short vibe'. No, he acted like a high-rollin' playboy type, and the women bought right into that.

 

Cultivate an image for yourself. If you have a weak image, then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes. If you have a solid image, your age, race, height, and all those other things you have no control over fade away. And you get the girls you want.

 

by Sebastian Drake