Don't Be an Online Fool

Nothing is worse than feeling like a fool, online or off. No one can make a fool out of you, unless you let them.

 

You can interact online without telling "everyone" "everything". By giving too much information in the beginning is a bad idea for two reasons.

 

1. You shouldn't give total strangers personal information. We tell our children "don't talk to strangers!" Yet, we tell strangers how much money we make, where we work, what kind of car we drive, if we are rent or own. That is way too much information!

 

2. Once you "layout" everything there is about you, your potential love interest will lose interest. Why hang around...? You're no longer very interesting...

 

Don't be an online fool, by trying to be too helpful and accommodating. If someone needs to make a trip, don't volunteer your friend's name that can get them a stand-by airline ticket "real cheap!" If this "stranger" is looking for a job, don't refer them to placement agencies that you've worked for. You have no idea who you are recommending. Don't give strangers a free ride on your reputation. That is being a total fool! If someone online needs a place to stay, don't offer to write a letter of reference, because at one time you were a leasing agent and your name still carries a lot of weight!

 

Please do not volunteer for anything! You will be taken advantage of 70% of the time and you will have no one to blame but you. Not because you're such a nice person...but because you are a fool! It's as simple as that.

 

Remember: when it comes to online dating sites, please take responsibility for protecting yourself. Don't acquire the reputation for being an online fool. You really don't have to bend over backwards to make quality, potential "love interests" online.

 

by Vivian Johnson

How to Flirt and Approach Women

Flirting is an art. Some of you guys are just blessed with the right wit and talent to do so. For those who are not so blessed, it is time to master this art of flirting. You might not need it now, but in years to come, you would probably regret for missing out with the thrill and fun of flirting with girls. Guys, learn how to flirt and approach women, and you will get the girl(s) of your dream in no time.

 

As you were chilling as the bar, you noticed a gorgeous girl as the corner of the room. She is THE girl. Now is the time to put your art and talent to great use.

 

Follow these simple tips to hook up with the right kind of girl:

 

1. Smile

Put on your million-dollar smile and charm her. Smiling can bring out the confidence in you and you will give the immediate impression that you are approachable. A flirty smile would be one that is wider that the regular smile. How about practicing in a mirror to make your smile look more natural?

 

2. Get some eye contact

Before you walk up to her and say hi, try to make eye contact with her. It is just rude to stare or ogle. Just give her a quick glance, and look away. Women are put off by men who constantly stare 'below'. So avoid doing this at all costs.

 

3. Time to walk up to her

This is the chance for you to introduce yourself to her. As you walk to her, maintain a good posture and this will make you more confident. A courteous approach is sometimes all you need. Women love confident men.

 

4. Start talking

Break the ice with a small chat. It might be pretty tough to start the ball rolling. But, giving a compliment would usually help. However, do take note that it can be pretty rude and inappropriate to give a compliment on certain parts of the body. Find something you can complement on such that it makes you sound sincere. Pay attention to what she has to say. If you show interest, she'll feel 'interesting'.

 

5. Make her laugh

Women love to laugh. So make her happy, and she will find your presence highly entertaining. Try to tell her a good joke. However, avoid sharing dirty jokes. While some girls might like it, some will just brush you off. So, don't take the chance. Just prevent yourself from blurting dirty jokes. At the same time, try to be spontaneous in humoring her. If all you do is tell her an endless list of jokes, she will find that you are just an entertainer. It would not appeal her much.

 

6. Patience, my friend, is a virtue

You have to take things slowly. Some ladies need a lot more time to show interest in you. If you don't get the desired attention from her immediately, don't give up yet. Don't show her the signs of frustration. Keep being yourself and you may never know what might happen next.

 

Flirting is ain't that tough. Just give yourself more time and practice. Older ladies usually enjoy a good flirt, so you might want to start by practicing on these women to further your talent. Have a flirty good time!

 

by Michael Dat

3 Tips to Boost Your Dating Success and Get That Great Woman

Being successful at dating is not rocket science. In fact, there are some easy tips that can really boost your success, and improve your dating odds. You see, often times men feel the need to impress the woman on a date. This can lead to unnecessary pressure to put on an act, or exaggerate a bit when dating. This can often be picked up by women unless you are an amazing liar. Most men are not amazing liars, and will give signals that can be picked up that they are lying. The goal here is to be as natural as possible on a date, so there will not be any warning signals for women to pick up on.

 

Be yourself: So, really, if you are interested in having long term success while dating, really the best advice is to just be yourself. Putting on an act to impress someone will only backfire as she eventually finds out you are not who she thought you were. Do not exaggerate your job details, education background, etc.

 

Show an interest in her: Women like to have a man show an interest in them. So ask about her job, family, hobbies, etc. Find out what she likes to do and include some of her likes in your plans with her. Let her know that you chose it because it makes her happy. This is a terrific way to let her know you have been paying attention, and she will be far more receptive to you.

 

Be open: If you are guarded about yourself, this can be a warning sign to her that you are hiding something. Not to mention, she may well be less willing to share anything about herself, making it far harder to use tip number two. Simply put, if you are open during discussion, she will be as well.

 

by Tony Ross

How To be Cocky With Women

Some guys might have frowned when the dating Guru, David DeAngelo came up with the brilliant idea of being 'funny and cocky' to impress the ladies. Now, this technique is widely used by (almost) all guys and it is said to bring about numerous successful results. If you want to charm the ladies, then you got to learn how to be cocky. It is not tough. You just need to couple of practices, and you are ready to go.

 

First things first, understand the idea of being funny and cocky. A funny and cocky comment is meant to make others laugh. So, if you notice that the lady is just staring back at you after you said something "cocky", than it is not THAT cocky after all. Just drop it then. From the words of the Guru himself, he said that you must try to be as cocky as possible. Because if you are just funny, you will end up looking goofy, which is definitely not a good thing.

 

Surprisingly, women find arrogant and confident man highly attractive. These sorts of men know how to make a woman give a give laugh. Tease a woman with your cocky funny comments, and she will definitely be impressed.

 

Want to learn how to be cocky? Use these tips to build on the right amount of cockiness to attract women:

 

Tip #1 - The right amount of cockiness

 

It is important that you keep the right dosage of cockiness. If you over-do it, you will find it tough to attract the ladies. As the matter of fact, you will probably face tough luck on getting any attention. They will shun you away because they find you way too weird for them or just too arrogant.

 

Tip #2 - Try being attractive in different ways

 

Your body language is very important when it comes to playing cocky. The way you speak and tonality can really make a women differentiate between a confident and a nervous guy. If your cockiness comes out all wrong, it will just leave the female unimpressed.

 

Tip #3 - Great time to be playful

 

You got to learn to be playful if you want to be cocky. The playful vibe will make you look less arrogant and hence increasing your appeal factor. When chatting up with a lady, approach the conversation and interaction casually; you do not want to come off as too serious.

 

If you know how to use the right kind of cocky and funny comments, it will help out to draw out important traits like confident, humor, unpredictability, challenge and social intelligence that women are looking for in a guy.

 

Just remember that the formula consists of being cocky AND funny. Loose either one of these and you will end up behaving like a weirdo. No women would want you. If you insist on being funny and making people laugh, you will end up looking overly goofy. But if you use both together, you will create magic and win the wonderful attention of many women with a snap of a finger.

 

by Michael Dat

3 Tips to Setting Up Your Online Profile

I have set up more profiles over the years than I can remember! But over the years, I have learned what does and what does not work. These are the 3 tips I always use when setting up my online profile.

 

1. Your User Name. Please put a little extra thought into this. That is your initial "face". This is the first thing everyone sees. After seeing your "face" they will make the decision whether or not they want to get to know you better.

 

Please be careful here. You can be flirty...cute...sexy...but resist using overtly sexual names. I refuse to respond to any user names that are the least bit vulgar, nasty, and down right crude. (And there are plenty of them online!)

 

Guys don't use any names that are just down right silly. I actually refused to engage in any type of conversation with three guys in particular; Poopsy, Sweetcakes and Teensy Weensy. Sorry I just couldn't get into these...

 

2. Use a very attractive, tasteful photo. It doesn't have to be a "glamour shot", but it should look somewhat professional. Make sure it accents your best facial features. The first page of your profile shouldn't be the "group" shots and the family "holiday" shots.

 

I believe 90% of the online dating sites give you a "photo album" this is where you put your additional photos.

 

3. Open with an interesting statement about who you are or what you love to do. Make it interesting. You will be glad you did...

 

To recap the 3 tips to setting up your online profile is; Your User Name is your face.

 

Your photo should "hook" them...and your opening statement should "reel" them in!

 

Get started...and have a blast!

 

by Vivian Johnson

How to Make Your Online Profile Stand Out?

Well, let's face it...there are millions of singles looking for love just like us! We need to find a way to stand out and be noticed.

 

"Spot check" at least 10 profiles. Note which ones caught your attention and why. Also note which ones turned you off, and why.

 

One of the main ways of getting your profile to stand out is to have a very flattering photo. You might say "everyone knows that!" If everyone knows that, then why do some people put pictures of their pets only?...Or...pictures of their car and motorcycle...only? Can you tell me why they will put pictures of their grandchildren at the park, but no picture of them? Then they have the nerve to complain about the lack of responses or the quality of the responses they receive!

 

Once you've picked out the photo that is flattering, now you want to pick a User Name. This will go at the top of your profile page. Pick something unusual, maybe cute, or a little sexy. Stay away from any user name that flashes "sex!!!" not "sexy". If you use a crude, vulgar user name? Those are the types of emails you can look forward to getting. Hey, maybe that's what you're looking for. If so, you can skip this paragraph...

 

Invest a little time in completing the profile questions. Some people answer all of the questions with "I'll tell you later". That turns me off. If they are truly trying to meet me, why won't they take a few minutes and introduce themselves to me? That is basically what the profile page is; an introduction. To make your online profile stand out, the introduction is extremely important.

 

When setting up your profile, keep these tips in mind. You will have more emails than you can handle! Good luck...

 

by Vivian Johnson

Dating Tips on Your First Date

Many men tend to want to impress a girl on the first date and forget the dating techniques they need in order to succeed. Here are a few dating tips to serve as reminders to he forgetful men.

 

Good Communication Skills

 

Good communication skills during the first date cannot be over-emphasized even though you are probably very interested in finding out more about her. Picture yourself walking along the streets with a girl who probably likes you and she keeps asking you about your past relationships, your social lifestyle and the people whom you usually mix around with. Her questions are never ending and she is always anxious for your answer. Does that sound like an interrogation? You bet it is. Therefore, you should try to phrase your questions in a non-probing manner and not bombard her with questions like a criminal. Ask open ended questions. This encourages further communication and rapport building.

 

Do Something Memorable

 

Your girl is beautiful and she just went out with two guys this week. You did your research and they both brought her to dinner. What makes you stand out differently from your love rivals? Generally, do additional research before the date and know what she likes exactly. You can bring her to the National Museum if her close friends tell you that her favorite subject in school is history. Instead of bringing her to dinner, a good place to go might be her favorite ice-cream shop. Furthermore, you buy her favorite peach flavored ice-cream with her favorite chocolate chip toppings. Now you tell me, who will win her heart over?

 

Never End the Date Late

 

Many men think that quantity equates quality in terms of dating. This is not entirely true. Dragging a date longer does not mean that you stand a higher chance with that particular girl. Instead, you might firstly give her the wrong impression that you like to stay out late. In addition, you might make her feel irritated as she feels that it is time for her to go home. Always offer to send her home but should she reject you, do not persist.

 

by Janice Hilton Freeman

Christian Dating Sites and How to Choose

You've decided to use an online Christian dating site. Great! But how do you know the Christian dating site you are about to spend money on is any good? There are 100’s of purported online Christian dating sites world wide. With so many Christian dating sites to choose from, you couldn’t blame Christian singles for being a little confused as to which Christian dating site to use. That’s one reason why we have researched and provided a page listing the top good online Christian dating sites.

 

A Good Online Christian Dating Site

 

What are some predictors of a good Christian Dating site? Keep the following dating site tips in mind as you shop around:

 

* A good Christian dating site will provide a free trial membership that not only allows you to browse other members, but also lets you know if those member is still actively seeking a soul mate. It’s really a little deceptive that some secular and Christian dating sites advertise a large membership base, but not all of those are active.

 

* A good Christian dating site will have a search and matching database that allows you to seek matches that not only share similar beliefs and values, but also live in your general area. The good Christian dating sites will let you browse for a mate using a number of variables. Let’s be real here: What chance does your dating relationship have if your potential soulmate match lives in Tahiti, but you call New York your home? Dating sites like Christian Cafe, Christian Mingle, Yahoo Personals and AmericanSingles are so successful because they have the above mentioned quality.

 

* A good Christian dating site has the ability to protect your privacy. In other words, you should be able to have complete control over things like your name, true e-mail address, phone number, etc. For example, quality Christian dating sites will have “in house” chat and e-mail addresses that allows you to remain anonymous while contacting other members. While we’re on the subject of privacy, you may also want to check with customer service to see if the dating site ever sells your personal info to other online dating sites (very common) or telemarketers. If you find out that is the case, it’s time to try out another Christian dating site.

 

* Finally, a good Christian dating site will have happy customers. Dating sites like e-Harmony boasts thousands of engagements every year. Great. But a personal testimony speaks louder than any marketing hype. Say you’re interested in a certain Christian dating site. Do you know of any friends, relatives or singles group members who have used that Christian dating site? If so, weigh in their two cents when choosing your own Christian dating service. It may save you a lot of time, money and heartbreak.

 

by David Butler

Love Somewhat Understood - Short Version

The energy of love and it’s defiance to be understood is what makes it so utterly astounding. Thoughts from the human mind cause emotions to intermix, contradict, and repel one another. They cause pain, fear, confusion, joy and all the fluctuations in between.

 

The mind can make you irrational, unrealistic, and foolish. It can bring sorrow when there is none, doubt with no issue, and weakness without the loss of strength. It can bend and mold in unhealthy ways, and make misery where it has no company. The mind is as logical as it is illogical, bound as it is free, and ingenuously stupid. The mind is the most amazing and revolting part of our human anatomy.

 

The heart on the other hand, makes you physically feel true emotions abound, transcend, and it can mesmerize you. Does the mind let the heart take over in matters of love? Why is it felt in our chest, in the deepest part of it? It seems as though the greatest decisions come from the heart, it seems to fuel the conscious, feed the soul, and make love outstanding.

 

To fathom the deepness of the habitual traits of true love and constantly finding happiness and sensual bliss with one person for multitudes of years is astounding. To walk each path of life together no matter which way the fork leads and to form a bond so strong that death could not break it, reveals that love is unconquerable.

 

No human love is perfect, if it were it would cease to exist, but what are these connections, these ties that bind us to a person and conforms us to them until our last word is spent? No love is simple, but more complex at times than answers to the universe. It causes a person to perform the most idiotic and most amazing performances the world has ever seen. Love has no boundaries, no limit, and has endless possibilities. Love can take and give life without question.

 

It is by far the most misunderstood, most necessary, and strangest of all emotions we know. Love is the brightest light and the darkest chasm a human must endure. You would count every star for just a glance. You would count every blade of grass for just one touch. You would catch every raindrop to keep them dry and warm.

 

That is what true love is. It is so difficult to contain it. If someone tells you that you are a fool in love, take that as a compliment. It may mean they envy you and are jealous of the feelings you have discovered. It is a blessing and a curse. It is a double-edged sword that cuts you no matter which way you handle it.

 

Be thankful that you have them and do not forget that. If you do not have love, do not fret, it will be at your doorstep soon enough. Apologize when you are wrong and do not be selfish when you are right. You cannot control it.

 

Just hold on for the ride and see where it takes you. It truly is the greatest gift bestowed upon human beings. We constantly take it for granted and do not always use it for what it was intended. People tend to give up on love after their heart has been torn out and kicked around. They adamantly defy it, do not want it, but then, someone opens the locked door and renews their faith in it.

 

Love is cleverly deceptive; it can be wonderful and horrible within the span of one minute. It causes you to let your guard down making you do, try, and say things you never would have before. Love costs nothing, maybe we should snatch up and use as much as we can while we still draw breath in this life.

 

(For long version see God)

 

Success thrives upon failure's demise.

 

by Doug Gorman

Attract More Women with These 4 Easy Tricks

How do you improve your dating life? How do you cause women to become so attracted to you that they just can't imagine not wanting to be intimate with you? There are a lot of little things you can do to accomplish these goals. I will discuss some of the very best tactics to shortcut your success to dating beautiful women.

 

Know Yourself. What are you good at? Think about what comes naturally to you and what you are confident in. Now come up with five scenarios that compliment these situations where women are at, or where you can take women to.

 

Now think about the areas you have trouble with, regarding women. You can either try to avoid them, solve them on your own or go to someone who has already figured them out. I prefer the latter; it's like getting a combination to a safe. Ask your friends who are good at dealing with women in the areas you need improvement on. Some people just have a knack for meeting women and knowing what to say to them. These personality traits are easier "caught" than taught. Find people you can hang around with who have what you want. Just by simply being with them you will start to pick up on their subtleties in the art of attracting women.

 

Reading books is not enough. No one ever learned how to roller skate by going to a seminar. That's why I not only advocate associating with people who have what you want, but to also get out in the field and experiment. When you first start trying to increase your prowess with women, don't be attached to the outcome. Instead of thinking in terms of success and failure with each approach, think it terms of feedback. Approach each encounter with a woman as a learning experience. This will cure your anxiety approach.

 

Practice your non-verbal communication. Communication is critical in dating. But get this - only 7% of your communication is from the words you use. The rest is from voice tone and body language. Women are much more adept at reading body language than men are. When men say something, women naturally check a man's body language to see if it is congruent to the words they speak. Even if women don't pick up on this consciously, subconsciously they will feel uneasy being around a man whose body language isn't congruent to his word choice.

 

Think of the compliment "you're beautiful." Say it a number of different ways. Try saying it in a nervous, timid way. Then say it in a confident way. Now try saying it in a suspenseful way. Practice saying this and other things to your friends and see if they can guess which way you are saying it. If they can't, you are having trouble in the areas of body language and/or voice tone.

 

These are just some general tips on approving your chances with women. But it's a good place to start. Just by being aware of the things covered in this article, you are already well ahead of the pack of ordinary men on the dating scene.

 

by Kurt Dight

How to Approach Woman and Get over Your Fears

A smoking Blonde is making Eye Contact with you. You're ready to go over there and spit your game, but that little voice inside your mind is trying to convince you not to.

 

- What if she already has a boyfriend?

- She might look at me and start laughing

- She wasn’t making eye contact with me; she was looking at the bartender behind me

 

That my friend is called approach anxiety.

 

It’s one of the biggest problems for men trying to be womanizers, and it’s something you have to get over. I’m just going to get straight to the point and tell you what you can do.

 

Use Your Wingman

 

Okay guys, a wingman is NOT just there to talk to the “fat friend”. He can motivate you to approach and remind you why you’re there in the first place. Another thing I like to do is have a bet of some sorts. Whoever gets the most numbers, loser buys shots.

 

Make Positive Affirmations to Yourself

 

To make an affirmation is to make a statement. Making a positive statement to yourself could give you the confidence boost to take you from watching her, to approaching her. Some things you can tell yourself:

 

- I’m a quality guy, she’ll be lucky to have me approach her

- I look great tonight, she’s a lesbian if she’s not attracted to me

- I’m the best!

 

The point is to say whatever can bring up your confidence boost. I suggest you make these statements before you enter the place, that way people’s first impressions of you is that you’re confident and here to have fun. Maybe she’ll approach you!

 

She's not that pretty

 

This is something I made up; I don’t know the word for it. When people see a girl and they have anxiety, it’s because they think she’s too good looking for them (come on its looks, you’re not scared of her because you think she has a great personality or something). What I tell myself is that she’s ugly and I’ve been with girls WAY better looking then her. I put MYSELF on a higher level than her. Last time I checked, it’s easy to approach a girl you think is ugly because you have nothing to lose!

 

The 3 Second Rule

 

When you first enter the place, approach the FIRST girl you see making eye contact with you within 3 seconds. You don’t have time to “convince” yourself not to approach; you’re just going to do it. You know what; the first approach is always the hardest to do. Once you get over it, you build momentum! (my physics professor would be so proud)

 

What’s the Worst That Can Happen? What’s the Best?

 

My worst was when I went to a girl on the dance floor and tried to dance with her. She grabbed her friend’s hand and walked away from me! Sure I felt like shit when it happened, but looking back it wasn’t too bad. I got over it and approached more that night.

 

My best? I took her home and had made love with her that night. In the future if I ever want to compared the worst and the best, the benefits of the best will outweigh the negatives of the worst.

 

Reach Between Your Legs

 

Do you have anything there? My friend, those two things are called balls, and guys that have them aren’t going to be too scared to say “hi” to a girl. So if you’re trying to convince yourself to back down, just give them a firm squeeze to remind yourself that you're a man.

 

Approach Anxiety is very common in men. You can either get over it and be the guy talking to all the ladies, or standing by the wall wishing you were that guy.

 

by Charles Ngo

How to Attract Women While Avoiding This Nightmare

Tell me if this has happened to you. You finally got a date with that girl you've been wanting to take out for a long time. So far things are going great, and the conversation has been interesting and exciting.

 

There's only one problem... you have run out of things to say.

 

I'm a big advocate of “mental rehearsal”. I used to wrestle in high school and before big matches my coach would have us rehearse the “perfect match” in our minds. This little exercise alone went a long ways to helping me win some big matches.

 

I have since did it in all aspects of my life, both business and personal.

 

Here's how it relates to running out of things to say on a date. If you are inexperienced with dating, or if you are nervous about an upcoming date, do this: First go somewhere to be alone where you won't be interrupted. Close your ideas and go through the date. Mentally plan out exactly how your interactions with her will go.

 

You'll be surprised with what you come up with. This is because you are able to think about it, step by step, in great detail. And also, there is scientific evidence that shows your mind interpret events you mentally rehearse as no different than actually experiencing them. So you're gaining experience for dating without actually being on a date.

 

This helps build your confidence and when you have confidence you are never worried about running out of things to say.

 

There is one other thing I do that works great, but requires some effort. I used to keep a small notebook with me everywhere I go. Anytime I got an idea for meeting, dating or conversing with women, I'd write it down. Every time something went unexpected on a date, I'd go home
and write down in my journal better ways to handle that same situation in the future. Then, I'd mentally rehearse these new scenarios.

 

And when in doubt, there are always a few crutches you can work off. By a book about palmistry, astrology or handwriting analysis. Then if there is a lull in a conversation you can take her hand and read her palm. Or ask her sign, and go into astrology.

 

You get the idea.

 

In conclusion, getting over running out of things to say on dates is pretty simple. First, mentally rehearse different conversations you will have with her before you even go out. Next, get a journal to write down conversation ideas you can talk about. And lastly, rely on certain routines you can use if all else fails.

 

Follow this advice and watch the conversations flow smoothly and effortlessly.

 

by Kurt Dight

Top Seven Ways to Dazzle your Lady

Men don't have to be totally mushy and feminine to be romantic. Romance is very sexy. It is one attractive quality that is never overlooked and always appreciated. Men feel intimidated and do not feel that they can be romantic. It's so simple and the reward is so high. Your lady will be impressed. These are the Top 7 Ways to Dazzle Your Lady:

 

1. Be Thoughtful

Everyone enjoys a romantic surprise. Bring home some flowers, pour her a cup of coffee in bed in the mornings, bring her lunch to work, meet her at the park to walk, pick her up something whenever you think of her; like her favorite ice cream at the store.

2. Make a List of Special Days

The days that are special to you and your lady, like your anniversary or the day you first kissed or went on your first trip together, remember to set aside quality time to spend with your lady. If you really want to wow her, cook her favorite meal for her. It is super sexy to see a man in the kitchen.

 

3. Always Look Your Best

What is that with people you are closest to, you seem to feel so comfortable you no longer dress up. That is not appropriate. Men must look their best; clean shaven, groomed hair, smelling nice, and dressed for success. Girls go crazy about a sharp dressed man. This is a fact.

 

4. Reach Out and Touch Her

This dazzling move will make her melt. Women need to be touched and held to feel loved. A nice bubble bath and massage will make her feel feminine and beautiful. Rub her shoulders, touch her hair, and hold hands.

 

5. Discuss Your Day

Be attentive and listen to her. Ask her about her day, and interact. Be present in the conversation. Tell her about yours and let her comment. It means a lot to women to be heard.

 

6. Create a Photo Album

Make a compilation of your sweetest moments together. Put them together in an album and get a card, then take her to dinner or order takeout. Present the album to her when you two are alone.

 

7. Think of Her Often

Let her know she is on your mind. Call her throughout the day just to tell her you are thinking of her, send text messages and emails telling her how much you miss her and cannot wait to be with her again. It is always sweet to know someone is thinking of you.

 

See, if you follow these simple tools, you will become effectively romantic before you know it. Being romantic is absolutely beautiful. Your woman
is sure to be dazzled and impressed.

 

by Lindsey Stewart

Dating as a Single Dad

It is hard enough to enter the dating scene as a single parent but for single dad's who are raising their kids alone it is even trickier. Unfortunately most of the advice and support out there is for single mothers since society is so used to mom's getting custody. But times are changing and more and more father's are getting at least joint if not soul custody of their children. Just because the legal system has changed doesn't mean that society, and dating, have caught up.

 

It's a sad fact that many women expect the men that they are dating to place them at the top of their priority lists, before work and family. That might be possible for the single guys and weekend parents but when you are an active single father your kids have to come first. Some guys try to juggle between girlfriends with Princess Syndrome and their kids but in the end it just leads to hurt feelings. The first rule of being a single dad in the dating world is to be selective. It's better to wait around for a woman
who appreciates and understands the primacy of your role as a father then to go through dozens of bad relationships with girls who don't get it. There are women out there who not only accept that being a Dad comes first to you, they also find it attractive. So where are these women at? The truth is that you are going to have to shift your hunting ground from bars and clubs, where the women tend to be younger and less mature, to places like coffee shops and book clubs. Don't be afraid to date single mothers, even though the fact you both have kids can make it complicated to schedule rendezvous and coordinate babysitters. It is worth it since you both have a dedication to family and share many of the same experiences. And don't rule out online dating sites. Getting to know somebody through emails and phone calls first can help you focus your limited time with people who have shown that they understand you and your situation.

 

Once a single father does find someone to start dating online they are trapped by the old rules of what men are expected to do in romantic relationships. Let's start with money. There are many single dads who are getting little, if any, child support from their exes and finances are tight. But the old rules about men paying for dates are still in play, even though the woman
you are taking out might be making more then you. So instead of taking your date to dinner and a movie, which can easily reach a fifty to eighty bucks for both of you, look for things that are less expensive but more romantic. An afternoon picnic at a park for example. There are dozens of low cost exhibitions, fairs, and community events going on in your town every weekend and these make great places to take a date. Then there is the issue of sex. Guys are expected to make the first move to the bedroom which is hard when you have kids at your home
, not to mention that you have to be home before midnight to pay the babysitter. You may feel like you are a teenager again having to make out in the back of cars and in parking lots because you can't go home. But you aren't sixteen anymore and you are old enough to be able to talk about the logistics of these issues with your girlfriend. If you aren't ready to talk about it then you guys probably aren't ready to be doing it.

 

So now that you have found the right woman
through your online dating, you just need to introduce her to the kids. It is important that you do this delicately and without a of promises. Make it clear to the kids, and your lady, that she isn't coming in to be their Mother. This is important because they have already lost one full time mother; if the relationship fails and they lose another one it will be devastating. You are the primary caregiver and decision maker in these kids’ lives. If your girlfriend takes on the role of Mommy she may end up usurping that authority.

 

by Melissa Becker

Why Do I Always Choose the Wrong Man?

You were chatting online when you met. You exchanged a few emails then a few photos. Then - after two weeks of chatting online, he called you. After you spoke to him, you realized that you hit it off and interested in meeting him. You decided to meet him in person for a cup of coffee or a cocktail. The date turned out horribly. He looked different from what you pictured. His personality was different too. As you sat through another torturous date and you impatiently await its close, you were left without anything to say. You don’t want to hurt his feelings.

 

The type of situation occurs very often in the online and blind dating world. It happens as if one party feels good about the connection, while the other party decided that no connection was made. When this does happen, one party is left with telling the other that it is time to move on. So what do you do in this situation? There is no right answer because rejecting someone is hurtful. Yet, you can make the rejection less painful by acting honest.

 

Here is a list of things that you should never do after you meet him:

 

Don’t say that you want to see him when you don’t.

 

Don’t call or email him when you have free time.

 

Don’t lead him on by telling him that you will call him back and never do!

 

Don’t agree to any dates.

 

Do not give mixed signals.

 

Here is a list of things that you can do:

 

Tell him that it is important that the both of you find partners that are right.

 

Don’t let him change your mind! Be assertive!

 

Most importantly, think about how you would want to be treated if the situation was reverse. Would you want to be led on?

 

However, if you did decide to go through the relationship, it would be built on false pretenses.

 

by Kristin Marquet

How to Read a Woman like a Book - Achieve Blistering Hot Results

Every guy wants to sweep women off their feet but very few know the true secrets to doing so. So what is the real secret to sweeping women off their feet? Well the answer is simple; it is knowing what she wants. Yes it does sound simple on paper but is rather hard to achieve in real life. There are several signs which a woman would emit when she is into or attracted to you. Therefore you need to learn how to read these indications and make the best out of the situation. Read on to find out how you can read a woman like a book and achieve blistering hot results.

 

Her smile - Try and notice the way she smiles and looks at you. If she constantly wets her lips with her tongue or bites it than she is definitely attracted towards you. She would occasionally touch her teeth using her lips as well.

 

Face - You would notice a strange redness in her face which might be a result of nerves or maybe excitement when she is around you.

 

Her hair - She would often throw her hair back while she states at you and mostly pushes her fingers across her hair and plays with it while starting at you.

 

Clothing - She would try to adjust her clothing or dress to look her best and she would make it a point to present her best self in front of you to make that strong impression.

 

Movement of hands - She would most probably touch her chin or cheeks or maybe rub her wrists up and down while she’s looking at you. When women are attracted towards someone they mostly tend to play with things around them. For example if she is sitting at a bar she might start playing around with a glass in her hand or maybe the spoon on the table. Her posture would normally change depending on your actions. When you would look at her she would suddenly change postures or sight of attention. She would sit with her body turned towards you. These factors indicate that she is strongly attracted to you and would love to initiate a conversation with you.

 

by Pushpa Pal Singh