There are a lot of male dating mistakes being made every day. As a dating professor, I have done research on this topic and have found two main areas where the most male dating mistakes are being made. Those two areas deal with fears and frustrations and also not understanding what women need in order to feel attraction. This article will give you tips and ideas on how to get more of the kinds of dates you want and help you make less male dating mistakes.
Fears cripple most men before they even stand a chance with a woman
. What kind of fears keeps men dateless on a Friday night? Mainly three: Fear of approaching a woman, fear of making a move, and fear of losing a woman. If you have others, it doesn't matter. I am going to show you how to break free from your fear patterns right now.
Let's look at the first one, which is fear of approaching and asking women out. I get this one a lot. What happens is you want more dates, but you are either too timid to approach a woman
or you have approached a few women recently and felt the sting of rejection. Actually, almost all root causes of fear when dealing with women come from rejection.
So what do you if you want to quit making the male dating mistakes of being too scared or timid to approach women? You try to overcome them. And it doesn't work very easily, does it?
Think about it a second. What are you doing when you try to overcome your fear? You are still focusing on that fear. Instead, you need to refocus your mind in such a way to where this is no way of fear even entering your mind. If one of your male dating mistakes is fear of approaching women, don't ask what you can do to overcome this fear. Ask yourself "how" questions to determine what you really want.
Let me give you an example. Before getting ready to approach a woman
, you can ask yourself, "How can I have fun approaching this woman?" Or, "How can I approach this woman in a way she'll find exciting?" Do you see the difference between focusing on overcoming your fear and focusing on "how" questions?
So one of the biggest male dating mistakes is not correcting their "fear focus". What about other male dating mistakes?
The second biggest one is mistaking what women need in order to feel attraction. A lot of men make the mistake that women want someone who is nice and who respects them. Don't get me wrong, women do want that.
In a friend.
What women want in attraction though is another matter altogether. Too many male dating mistakes have been committed because of a misunderstanding of attraction. What attraction is at the deepest level is something that is hardwired in our DNA. What women in general are attracted to, whether they are even aware of it or not, has to do with evolutionary genes.
In other words, within seconds women subconsciously analyze a man and think, "Would he be someone who could produce good, strong, healthy children?"
Don't make another male dating mistake and think this is not true. It's true in women who don't even want children. How can this be? Because it's hardwired in our DNA, and it's the root cause of attraction.
So, instead of me doing all the work, I will leave you with this thought. Let's use the first question to see if we can figure out what women need in order to feel attraction.
"How can I be someone who women will subconsciously think can produce sexy offspring?"
Words like power, confidence, and health come to mind. Now dig a little deeper. Did you think you were going to automatically correct all of your male dating mistakes by simply reading an article?
by Kurt Dight
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