You should respect your mother. Women appreciate men who do so - it shows they appreciate and understand women. But here's what potential dating mates don't like: Mama's boys.
A man who tries to impress a woman
too much by talking about his respect for his mother, or whose life seems centered around his mama, will set off an alarm in a beautiful woman's head that says: Mama's Boy!
In this article I will discuss a few reasons why women are turned off by mamas boy and also how to overcome these obstacles as well and how to show a woman
you respect your mother without making her think of you as "just friends."
As a man, it's no secret you fantasize about women all the time. Well, women do this to. Sometimes they fantasize about a heroic fireman, or a "bad boy" who represents excitement, power and desire. Now I want you to imagine if a powerful hero or a seductive bad boy was taking a beautiful woman
out on a date. What happened if he had to check in with his mother when he arrived at his date's location? I think we'd both agree that this would severely limit has chances of a sexual encounter with his date.
Women are highly attracted to men who aren't intimidated by others and who aren't under someone else's control. That's the problem with mama's boys; they don't satisfy either of those two criteria. Mama's boys often have a psychological problem that comes from wanting to fulfill their mother's every request, no matter how strange or unreasonable it is. A big part of dating women is communication, or being able to reach an agreeable conclusion. This is hard enough with two parties involved, and becomes impossible when mom enters the picture.
Here's something else: the woman
you date likes to feel she is number one in your life. If you make her play second fiddle to another woman - even your mother - you are sending her a message that she is NOT number one. I'm not saying you can't take your mom out for mother's day or her birthday, or even once in a while for no special occasion. But to consistently side with your mom over your lover is a good way to drive a woman away from you quickly.
It is impossible for her to think she can even compete with the woman
who raised you. And it isn't worth it. She will just give up and date someone else.
Also, women like to feel they can provide for their man. If you keep mom around often, you are making you mate feel like she is not fulfilling enough for you, causing her to feel unhappy.
All is not lost, however. If you feel your mother is too controlling or if you'd like to rid yourself of a "mama's boy complex", the first thing you need to do is establish a new relationship with your mom. Often times mother's continue to treat their children as just that - children. It doesn't matter if they grew up. If you feel you are still being treated as a child, you need to communicate this with your mom and tell her how you would like to be treated.
Also, it's not bad to learn how to say no to your mother once in a while. It doesn't mean you don't love her any less. It's just that as an adult, you are your own person, and for her to truly love you, she must respect that.
In the end, it is okay to have your mom still care and look after you. But it's also important for your lover or your date to understand that you are comfortable in your own reality outside of others and that you are a competent, independent human being who appreciates high quality relationships with many wonderful people, including both her and your mother.
by Kurt Dight
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