It took a lot of lobbying to start dating her. You are still dangling the bait and she is giving it a critical look and a careful analysis while contemplating whether it is worthwhile swallowing it. Be careful not to scare her away. You might never see her again if she takes a flight. A slight mess and you will realize she has magical powers. She will do a disappearing act so fast your eyes will be left smarting. Avoid commenting especially on her looks, it is one of the topics to avoid while dating. Tell her what she wants to hear if it comes to this area of looks and cloth wear. She might be fat with ill-fitting clothes but woe unto you if you dare speak the naked truth. That is the last time you will hear from your date or even cast your eyes on her.
Avoid talking about your ex-lover. Actually the right term should be to completely stop mentioning your ex-lover at all costs. Talking about your ex-lover is the most annoying and outrageous thing you can do to your date. It gives you away and lowers your chances of baiting her. Bringing the ex factor into a new date shows that your mind is not there at that particular moment. You are actually thinking about your ex-lover while your new date is sitting right there in front of you. This is very mean. About your ex-lover is among the topics to avoid while dating because it shows you are yet to overcome the hangover of your previous relationship. You are not ready for a new relationship and your date can see through that. Which woman would want to be equated to another woman? You make her feel like a lesser woman. You are a senseless brute out to hurt her.
She has a rich history. She has been through the good and the bad side of life but anyway who does not have a history? As a dating advice, avoid that direction in your conversation. I assure you those are treacherous waters. You might drown yourself without even knowing it. Among the topics to avoid while dating is her past. Do not attempt to poke your nose into her past, it might get blown off. What you do not know does not hurt you and neither does it concern you in any sense. You also have a history and some of the contents in your history are in highly classified files that are only known to you and no one else. Let bygones be bygones and concentrate on the present situation. You are dating her and she is with you. Cultivate and nurture the relationship to achieve your set goals.
Her appetite is ravenous and her eating habits are wanting. Take it politely and do not talk about it. Tackle it at a later stage in the relationship. It is among topics to avoid while dating. She slurps her tea while drinking and it puts you off. Look for ways of grooming and fine tuning her in a friendly and light-hearted manner later. Topics full of jargon that only yourself understands should not find their way into the conversation. You will put her off and she will avoid your dates from that day henceforth.
by Francis K Githinji
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